I see program after program being advertised for “How to get your ex back” , and the whole thing just makes me cringe. I’m guessing you’ve already worked out what I think of these programs! In truth, I don’t think very much of them at all, and in many cases I believe they are sending the wrong message and giving false hope to women who are pining over a lost cause. I also believe they are taking advantage of women who don’t see their own value.
I do believe it is possible to get back with an ex, but depending on the circumstances around the breakup, I’m thinking that most broken relationships really should not be saved and should be left in the past where they belong. After all, you’ve broken up for a reason, yes?
In addition to this, there’s the seemingly forgotten aspect of “free will”. You may desperately want your ex back, but what if he’ doesn’t want you back?? Where do his feelings and needs come into it, or don’t they matter?
Most importantly though, what about you? Being so desperate to get your ex back that you’re prepared to pay money for a course to work out how to get him back, you’re seriously lowering your value! Surely you’re worth more than that?? If he truly wanted you back, he’d be doing whatever he could to make that happen.
Several years ago I was seeing a man who dumped me a few months later to give things another go with his ex wife. It hurt at the time, but I respected his decision to give his marriage another go, and I graciously held the door open for him.
A month later, he contacted me to tell me his attempt at rekindling his broken marriage had literally “crashed and burned”. It sucks to be him, because while it was a risk he needed to take, he lost both his wife and me in the process. He also knew my stance – if he chooses to walk out of my life, I’m not going to wait around and will unlikely take him back, and I backed myself 100%.
After he left, I was able to see things really clearly and there were several aspects of him that I realised I wouldn’t be happy with long term. So the month between him leaving and coming back allowed me to decide more clearly what I wanted and what I did not want in a man and in a relationship. I also wanted a man who was strong in his conviction and when he made decisions, he stood by them.
What I decided was that this man was therefore not going to be the man for me, and his leaving to go back to his wife, was the best thing he could have done.
This was about my personal value. I value myself and my heart above everything else, including him, and no “Get your ex back” course would have changed my mind – it would have been a complete waste of money.
Actually, now that I think of it, if you’ve dumped a guy with absolutely no intention of ever getting back with him and he completed a “Get your ex back” course, how successful do you think he’d be with you?
If you don’t think he’d be successful at all because you’re well and truly done with him, then what makes you think that a “Get your ex back” course will help you to get back a man who is done with you??
So before you waste money on such a course, why not invest that time, effort and money into you! If you see your own value, you would never even consider wasting your money on such a course… just sayin’…
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