Anybody who knows me also knows that I’ve been on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster ride for some time now since I made the decision to end my second marriage.
While I know I have made the right decision, I’ve struggled to maintain my positive attitude at times, and I’ve not been happy about that!
I have been conscious of the fact that I’m not in a positive mindset, and I’ve “tried” to change it, but with only limited success.
But several weeks ago I finally discovered the answer – I now know how to keep my energy positive, which is how I want it to be!
As I mentioned above, I’ve been on a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride. I’ll be happy and positive about my future sometimes, and at other times I am wondering how on earth I found myself in this situation – again!! I suppose I’ve mentally beaten myself up a bit too, which is not good.
My focus on my lifelong goals has wavered and I’ve just been living from day to day, with no real direction or idea of where I’m now headed.
Then one day I realised that sitting around waiting for life to happen to me was not going to get me anywhere! I had to refocus on my goals and do something about them! I had to get out of my “limbo land” mindset (while waiting for our house to sell so I can move out on my own, I’ve been living here with my ex husband, so I felt “stuck”) and start working towards achieving my goals – I stopped letting my current living situation dictate my level of focus.
So I began thinking about what I want in my life, started writing in my grattitude journal (I have this really cute iPhone application that allows me to write down what I’m grateful for, no matter where I am!), and then out of the blue I was invited to attend some training by a friend of a close friend.
This training was about crafting a presentation about your topic of interest. It was much, much more than that though, and delved into discovering your passions and all sorts of wonderful things. And finally I realised exactly what I wanted to be doing!
I walked away from that weekend feeling pumped and energised and finally I was EXCITED about my future again!
Since then I’ve attended Meetups focused on public speaking, I’ve been listening in on webinars, have picked up my studies and can now see myself moving closer to my goal, which is to help even more people (and women in particular) overcome low confidence and self esteem!
Not only that, but I have been offered an amazing opportunity to work with my newest mentor, which is just the most amazing thing ever!
So while there have not been so many “physical” changes to my life, I am feeling a thousand times more positive about life. Opportunities have started coming my way, such as a woman I met recently who works closely with women from all over the world who said to me, “I can help you” when we taked about what I want to do. Wow!
So here’s what a small shift in mindset (choosing to focus on your goals and dreams) can do:
- Opportunities seem to magically come your way
- The “right” people cross your path at just the right time
- You feel more positive about your life
- You attract more positive people into your life
- You feel a lot better about yourself – you’re finally working towards something worthwhile!
Thanks for sharing. yes, there is nothing like giving a well-received public speech to boost your confidence and sense of well-being. unlike so many techniques and approaches in the self-development world, learning how to speak well is easy to do and is instantly perceived by others.
Yes, I think you really just need to be taught the right techniques and you’re at least half way there! 🙂