If your self esteem is keeping you from achieving your hopes, dreams and goals, or it is making you feel inferior, unimportant or unworthy, then keep reading.
I know first hand how hard things can be when you suffer from low self esteem and looking back, I wish I had the resources I now have access to.
Below I’ve put a bit of a “before and after” scenario to show you what a difference improving my self esteem made to my life:
Before
I was an unattractive teen, and I really didn’t like myself very much at all – at times I even despised myself.
Many of my friends were involved in drugs or other unsavoury pastimes.
Many of my boyfriends (there were lots!) were involved in drugs or other unsavoury pastimes.
I was stood up on several occasions and many of the guys I went out with really didn’t treat me the way I deserved to be treated.
I married a man who verbally and emotionally abused me for nine long years. I still didn’t like myself very much.
I was afraid to try new things, and I pretty much remained in a rut during my entire marriage.
After
A lightbulb went on, and I gradually started to work on my self esteem (boy I wish I’d had the internet back then – the process would have been so much quicker!).
After nine years of hell, I finally “woke up” and realised that I deserved so much more. It was the realisation that I was teaching my young daughter that the treatment I was experiencing was ok (because I was putting up with it) that helped me make the decision to leave. I did not want her to experience the pain I had experienced for so long.
Leaving my husband improved my self esteem immensely – maybe it was the realisation that I could do things on my own and do them well!?
I started to attract the “right” kind of men. (I also had a set “criteria” they had to meet in order to get a first date and I wasn’t backing down!).
I really started to enjoy my life for the first time EVER!
I eventually met my new husband who happens to be the most loving, caring, compassionate person I know and he is a wonderful stepfather to my eldest daughter. For the record, he asked me out!
I now like me for me. I don’t look much different to what I did in my teens (apart from my hair!), but it’s more the inside that has changed, and not the outside.
I am living a wonderful, happy life. I am happily married with two beautiful daughters, I have a beautiful home with a huge inground swimming pool, we live in a really nice area and I am lucky enough to work from home.
I am so grateful for all I have and really want to help others to overcome this “disease” called low self esteem.
It isn’t until you have overcome low self esteem that you realise how debilitating it can be. Your life kind of goes on hold while you try to get yourself out of this really big “hole” and life really can be miserable.
I hope my story inspires anyone with low self esteem to do something about it.
Have a great day!
Michelle Green
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