Aahhh yes… the dreaded “I can’t move on from my ex” story… I’ve seen a bit of this today, and to be honest, it makes me cringe!
For me, it’s a bit black and white. Once a guy becomes an ex (either he dumps me or I dump him), he’s immediately lost any chance of any type of future with me, that goes beyond platonic friendship.
But there are many women out there who keep looking back, keep pining over what could have been, who are a consumed by their feelings for this ex, and are struggling to move on.
These are the women who are often in the “dumped” category, although some are the “dumpers” but only did so because they were sick of his crap.
Ok, so how can you move on from an ex?
There are so many ways to move on, and I’m sure this little list is only a tiny fraction, but hopefully they’ll spark some ideas for you!
Ok, so here goes…
- Tell yourself over and over again, that you met this guy for a reason, and that there was a lesson to learn, so now it’s time for him (and you) to move on.
- Believe that there is better out there.
- Date others – LOTS of others!
- Reconnect with the girlfriends you’ve neglected lately.
- Pamper yourself – show yourself some lurve!
- Read some self help books – work on making yourself a better person.
- Focus on the positives in life.
- Write in a gratitude journal – realise that you have a whole lot more than many others on the planet do.
- Consider whether it was his potential or the reality that you were actually in love with, and learn from that very important fact…
What other ways do you think you can shift that focus off the past and on to your future?
Ohhh another thing I should add, is that what’s happened in the past cannot be controlled, so why keep your focus back there? Why not instead focus on what you CAN control, which is your future! xxx