Before I start, I guess I should first talk about why anyone would want to find the positives in a negative situation. What’s the point of doing this?
According to the Law of Attraction, you get what you think about – whether you want it or not – so if you’re thinking of negative stuff, then you’re going to attract more negative stuff. On the other hand, if you are able to manage thinking positively, even in the face of adversity, then chances are you will either get yourself out of that negative space sooner, or you will begin to attract positive events not long after you have dealt with the negative event.
Another thing to note is that the meaning (whether it’s positive or negative) we attach to anything is all made up in our heads – it isn’t “real”. The reason for this is because we all see things so very differently, and while you may see a situation as “black”, somebody else may see it as “white”, but neither of you are wrong!
Ok, so I hope that all makes sense, and if it doesn’t, I suggest you check out my 30 Days to Make 2021 the Best It Can Be course, where I cover this in a little more detail with video instructions to go along with every lesson. This is a free course I recently created, and I am actually completing this course alongside my wonderful students!
So how does one find the positives in a negative situation?
I won’t tell you this is easy, because to be honest, it’s not – especially if you’re in a really bad place right now – but it can be done if you are able to get yourself out of your head a little to try just one of the perspectives I’m going to talk about below.
Taking a step back
Take a step back in your mind and imagine you are looking in from the outside – try to see the situation from all perspectives.
Does it look a little different now? Does it seem as negative when you’re removing yourself from the equation?
If somebody has done you wrong, how does it look from their perspective? Do they really think they’ve done something wrong?
If somebody you love has passed away, how do you think their inner being is feeling about this situation? Are they relieved now that they are no longer in physical or emotional pain? For them, could this be a positive event?
Is it possible that your higher self wanted you to experience this contrast in order to help you grow somehow? Has this negative event prompted you to take positive action that you wouldn’t have taken otherwise? Could there be a positive outcome from this situation?
What if your partner cheated on you? Is it possible that they did so in order to mirror back at you how you’ve been cheating yourself out of something? Or could they simply be weeding themselves out because there is someone soooo much better coming along??
Looking at any situation from every possible perspective and brainstorming possibilities is a really good way to reframe a situation so that it looks a little more positive in your mind. Attempting to remove all meaning from the situation is ideal, but this takes practise.
And let’s face it – sometimes a situation sucks and will continue to suck until it blows over, so all you can do is ride it out, focusing on the good that’s coming instead, and not giving the bad so much energy.
Finding the positives in a negative situation can be challenging, but it can be done, and if you’re able to attach a new meaning to the situation, and therefore you’re able to find the positives, then you’re on your way to attracting more positives into your life.
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