Forgiveness is for you – not for them

I recently read about a different perspective regarding forgiveness.

It said something like:

“Forgiveness isn’t about condoning what somebody did. It’s about letting it go and no longer carrying that load anymore, because doing so only hurts yourself…”

You see, if you’re holding onto anger towards somebody that wronged you, it is you that is feeling those feelings, and it is you that is attracting more circumstances in your life to justify those feelings.

This is because our thoughts and feelings attract circumstances to match the vibration of those thoughts and feelings into our life.

So, somebody has wronged you. There’s nothing you can do to change that, nor can you turn back time. So what can you do?

What you can do is choose how you handle the situation. You could always choose to continue with the pity party and to carry anger, but what would that achieve?

But do you really think that’s harming that person in any way? I’m thinking not.

Who it IS harming, is you.

YOU are the person feeling these dark emotions, lowering your vibration as you “buy into” your anger towards the person who did you wrong, and I bet it doesn’t feel good, right?

It may be “fun” to imagine karma getting its way with that person, but in the end, there are no warm and fuzzy feelings attached to this whatsoever, and trust me, you end up feeling much worse.

So how about this way of dealing with a situation such as this:

1. Allow yourself to feel the anger (or any other dark emotion you may feel) toward that person, but don’t let it linger too long.
2. Make the decision to let it go, because your happiness matters much more than that person does, right? The more anger you send to that person, the more power you’re giving them over you.
3. Let go of the victim mentality and blaming others. If you find yourself moving towards that, steer yourself towards thinking of something positive, such as a lifetime goal or dream that you have.
4. Continue to bring up thoughts of your lifetime goal or dream, visualising how you will feel when you achieve this.
5. When not visualising the dream, stay present. Don’t look back – it’s gone and cannot be changed – come up with ways to make each day positive and special.

The more we focus on positive thoughts and feelings, the more positive circumstances we will attract into our lives. This is just how the Law of Attraction works – you attract what you think about!

We all know things will happen and people will do things that hurt, and we also know that we get to choose how we handle those situations, and there is a way which serves you and a way which doesn’t.

What would you choose?