Ok I’m sure when you read the title of this post you thought “How can something be good about having a problem?”, right?
Having the problem itself isn’t ideal, but if you learn to look for the positives in every situation you face, you’re going to notice that your life is going to take a dramatic turn for the better…
The reason for this is because if we focus of the negatives in any situation, the negatives seem bigger. But if you focus on the positives in any situation, the positives seem bigger. And what you focus on you attract more of!
When I lost my first baby, I was absolutely devastated. It felt as though all of my hopes and dreams had come crashing down, and my little precious bundle was gone.
At the time, it was difficult to see any positives – my baby had died and life therefore sucked. And to make matters worse, at the time I was hearing stories of teens sleeping around and falling pregnant to men they did not know, and either having abortions or giving their babies up for adoption. So why is it that me, a married woman who desperately wanted to have a child of her own had her baby taken away from her, when these girls didn’t? It seemed so unfair!
But soon after this happened, I decided to focus on the positives. It was common for women to miscarry, and as the doctor said, if I was able to fall pregnant the first time, then I would have a good chance of falling again. So I chose to focus on these things rather than on what I had lost.
Only weeks later I knew exactly why my baby did not make it. It was making way for a precious little girl who would teach me what unconditional love was all about. And she would grow up to be the most beautiful-natured 14 year old you could ever meet (who would’ve thought????). 😉
She told me recently that she had mentioned to some friends that I was her best friend. I cannot tell you how much that meant to me to hear that from her, and I am so grateful that although my first baby was lost, I was given something so beautiful in return…
It is sometimes difficult to find the positives in some situations, but once you make the decision to turn something negative into a positive, things truly turn around…
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