For many people, criticism, whether it is constructive or not, can be quite difficult for a person with low self esteem to handle well. Often a person will take criticism personally, even though this was not the intention of the person giving it, and while sometimes criticism isn’t justified, being able to handle it in […]
Self Improvement
Kids and Self Esteem
This subject is close to my heart because I am a mother of two beautiful daughters. None of us were born with low self esteem. Low self esteem develops over the years as we grow older and is the result of how we were treated by our "friends" or our family or others we come […]
Your environment matters
Healthy self esteem stems from the environment you find yourself in regularly. This could be at home, at work, at school, hanging out with your peer group or anywhere else you find yourself. A healthy environment needs to be nurturing and positive. If you find yourself amongst people who don’t have your best interests at […]
If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all…
One of the things that people with low self esteem or confidence have is a lot of negative self talk. They tell themselves they’re not good enough, or they’ll never be able to succeed, or there’s no way they could do that. The key to overcoming this self talk is to replace it with postive […]
Ask for help, if and when you need it
It is often very difficult for a person with low self esteem to ask for help or support. But is important you do ask for it. A person with low self esteem usually feels they don’t deserve the help, whereas a person with a healthy self esteem knows they deserve it, and they’re not afraid […]
Look after YOU!
Another way to help build your confidence and self esteem is to look after yourself. Treat yourself on occasion to a facial or a manicure, or if you’re a guy, then treat yourself to a game of golf, or a few hours fishing, or you might even want to try the facial or the manicure! […]
Having negative thoughts?
Everyone has negative thoughts at some point, although those with low confidence or self esteem are much more inclined to let them linger. Not necessarilty because they want them to linger, but more because they don’t know how to get out of their negative mindset. Believe it or not, reducing or even removing negative thoughts […]
I now know why affirmations are good for me… now what??
The first step towards getting those affirmations working for you is to write them down in present tense as I mentioned in my last post. I write my goals and my affirmations on the backs of old business cards, and put them all around the house including on the bathroom mirror, on my bedside table, on […]
Positive Affirmations – Do they work?
Wikipedia states that an affirmation is the declaration that something is true or a positive value judgement. So what has this got to do with self esteem or confidence? It is believed by many that positive self-affirmations are healing, positive scripts you say to yourself to counter your negative inner voice. They can help you […]
Have you ever felt you lacked confidence?
If you have, then you are definitely not alone! I am a pretty confident person and I sometimes find that when I am in a situation that takes me outside of my comfort zone, then my confidence is sometimes lacking! For example, when I worked for a government organisation a while back, I was asked to […]