I am a member of many forums and groups where women come together to give advice and support each other in working their way through relationships, and in particular, difficult ones. What I’ve observed over the last couple of years is that soooo many women cling to and pine over some men, who clearly don’t […]
Dating & Relationships
Loving your man more than you love yourself
Once upon a time I was that girl, the one who loved her man much more than she loved herself. As a result of this, my man didn’t treat me very well at all. In fact, he was verbally and emotionally abusive towards me, and also very controlling. I loved him so much that I […]
Being ok with being single – 5 ideas to get you there
I’ve been single for some time now, and since my marriage ended in April 2010, I’ve had one “longish” relationship that lasted two and a half years. That ended a year ago and since then I’ve been working very hard on myself to become the best person I can be. I’ve enjoyed my year of […]
Living in the moment vs future thinking
I’ve posted a lot about dating and relationships lately, and that’s probably because I’m single and have plenty of single people around me, some of whom I have coached along the way, so why not? There is always soooo much to learn! One of the biggest “traps” women tend to fall into when joining the […]
When should I ask where this relationship is going? The answer may surprise you…!
“Julie” has started dating a guy. He’s attentive, he calls and texts her regularly, and they always have a great time. They’ve been seeing each other for three weeks now and so far everything’s great! But she’s wondering what his intentions are. Where is this “relationship” going? She hopes he’s not using her for sex!? […]
It is better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all
I love this saying, because I believe it to be soooo true! And there’s a reason for this belief…! Let me take you back almost a year ago… I had finally woken up to myself and walked away from a very toxic relationship which had lasted over 2 years, so I was feeling a little […]
Are you in love with your man, or in love with his potential?
I hate to admit it, but I have been guilty for falling for a man’s potential, rather than for what was right in front of me at the time. I was seeing a guy for 2.5 years, and while there were some good moments, there were a LOT more bad moments with him. But I […]
Another reason why having a dating Plan B is always a good thing
Yesterday I talked about why having a Plan B in place when dating is a good thing. It takes the pressure off you and your prospective dates, because you’re no longer sitting around worried if he’s going to cancel. With no Plan B, if he cancels, the alternative is to sit at home alone, crying […]
What’s your dating Plan B?
The old me (over a decade ago), after meeting someone new that I quite liked, would think about him almost constantly. I’m sure I was bordering on obsessed, because the guy would consume all of my thoughts all day every day. It was actually quite disturbing! Anyway, what would usually happen, is that I would […]
How good do you feel in his presence?
Two marriages, countless dates and several boyfriends later, I’ve learned a LOT about what feels good and what doesn’t, and for most of my first marriage, I did NOT feel good. Nor did I feel good in my last relationship. So why on earth did I stay??? I often ask myself that question, and the […]