How to feel how it would feel to have what you want

When working with my clients, one of the first things I often ask them to do as their “homework” is to really get into the feeling of having what they desire. 

Whether it’s money, their dream relationship, a lucrative business, their dream home, or a new car, the process is exactly the same. 

But how do you feel the feeling of an experience you’ve not had yet? This is a common question, and today I am going to explain how you can do this!

Here’s what I would like you to do:

1. Write down, in present tense, what you would like to create in your life. Be sure to write down something that would really change your life for the better if it manifested tomorrow. 
2. Close your eyes, and imagine it’s tomorrow and while you were sleeping last night, a miracle happened and that thing had magically manifested!
3. How do you feel about this miracle? 

The number one feeling we feel when we begin to see our dreams manifesting, is a feeling of love for our life, a feeling of joy, or pure gratitude that this thing has finally happened!

Ok, so let’s look at gratitude…

When we feel grateful for something, it means it’s already happened. When you receive something amazing, or that amazing something is given to you, or you’re in the process of receiving it and you’re seeing evidence of this, you feel grateful, right?

So when in that feeling of gratitude, you are basically saying “Thank you for what I have received/am receiving”. And you can feel this way before it’s even appeared!

Most people live their lives waiting for something outside of them to change before they can feel happy or grateful. They’re waiting for their new relationship. They’re waiting for the money to appear. They’re waiting for their success to happen before they allow themselves to feel gratitude for it.

When they do this, they’re spending their lives in a state of lack, of not having what they want, feeling unloved or unwanted, or in a state of fear, waiting for an external event to change so they can feel good again. 

But life doesn’t work that way.

When you’re in a state of lack, you try to work harder to force things to happen, to control the outer world, doing everything you can to change your external world. But your external world is purely a mirror of what’s going on inside you. You are experiencing a separation or a polarity from what you want and that’s what’s going on inside of you.

When you’re in this state of lack, you hold yourself “stuck”, and you’re not creating – you’re just stagnating!

What many people don’t realise is that what we’re doing inside of us, produces a monumental effect outside of us. Changing the outside does very little, but the internal stuff.. well… that’s powerful!

If you’re in a state of anger, stress, sadness, fear, anxiety or pain, you are literally changing your body chemistry to align with those emotions and you’re creating or attracting more external events to match that vibration.

On the other hand, when you’re feeling heart-centred, loving emotions, feeling love, gratitude, excitement, joy, elation, and so on, you are changing your body chemistry to align with those emotions, which affects your creative powers in the most incredible way! 

When you are feeling these heart-centred emotions, you are falling in love with your life, and your body accepts these loving messages as true, and it begins to live that future reality in the present moment. You’re also signalling the genes of your body to act as though the environment matches your emotional state, whether the “event” has happened or not. 

When you remain in this state consistently, you are becoming your dream, whatever that may be.

Exciting huh??? 

What’s also great about these heart-centred emotions is that when you are feeling them, you’re less interested in looking outside of yourself to find out the “how” something is going to happen. This is a good thing because too many people get so caught up in the “how” that they lose sight of what they’re actually aiming for.

When you’re feeling these heart-centred emotions, you are also less likely to feel a sense of lack or separation from that thing that you want.

Ok, so what’s my point here?

Well… when you’re in this state of gratitude for example, and you’re able to feel it in your heart, that’s where the magic happens. You begin to produce a magnetic field, and you literally start to become a magnet to whatever it is you desire.

You are literally broadcasting out to the world what it is you want, and how amazing it feels to have it, and that is beginning to be magnetically drawn to you! You are literally calling your future to you.

You don’t have to go searching for it, you don’t need to force it or try to control or predict it – you’re a magnet and it will be drawn to you in the form of synchronicities, coincidences, chance meetings, or opportunities, to name a few.

It is so important to make every effort to stay in this wonderful, heart-centred place as much as you can, because when you’re feeling strong emotions to the contrary, what do you think you’re attracting?

You’re literally holding your dreams at bay. 

Here’s something else you can do to help strengthen your emotional “magnet”:

1. Write down everything you can think of about the thing that you want. For example, if you would like a relationship, then write down everything you want in that relationship. If you want to be rich, write down what life would be like if you were rich. If you’d like to own your dream home, write down the details of this wonderful new home.
2. Become that person. Act and feel as if you’re already there. Act and feel as if you’re in your dream relationship, you’re rolling in money, or you finally own your dream home! Really become this future version of you and truly feel how this person feels every day!
3. Now think about this… If you were a member of the opposite sex, would you go out with you? If you were money, would you want to hang out with you? If you were your dream home, would you want you living in it?  

To clarify the third point, if you are currently a miserable cow, would you seriously want to date you if you were the man you eventually want to be with?

If you were miserable and didn’t think anything worked out for you, would you want to be your money? You’d probably get lost along the way! Same goes for the house. If you currently feel like it’ll never happen or you’re not good enough to have a house like that, how do you think your future house thinks you’ll treat it once you have it?

Now back to the good stuff…

When you finally find yourself falling in love with your life, you will no longer feel as though you need that relationship, the money, or the dream home – you’re no longer living in lack. What happens next is that you magnetise an equal, that thing that matches your new, happy vibration, and it usually happens in a way you couldn’t possibly predict!

So really embracing these heart-felt emotions is how you attract the unknown – how you attract the things that you desire but haven’t created in your reality yet.

In embracing these emotions on a daily basis, you’re teaching your body emotionally what your future feels like, and you become a person who’s in the perfect state to receive all that it is that you desire, and eventually, when the time is right, the dream becomes your reality!