When you are dealing with stuff, are you coming from the place of solving the problem, or from a place of creating what you want?
This is the question a friend and mentor of mine asked during a video he posted on Facebook recently, and it made me think!
I’ve always seen myself as a “problem solver”, but I really had to stop and think about whether I was in the energy of the problem or of the solution! What I realised is that when it comes to my own “problems”, I tend to be in the energy of the problem, and when it’s somebody else’s problems, I tend to be in the energy of the solution. It seems that many people are exactly the same.
As I type this, I have an almost-finished free relationships course recorded and ready to go, and the very first module is called “Getting clear on what you want”. Ha!
Here’s the thing… if you don’t know what solution you want, how on earth will you know when you get there? It’s like doing some target practice with a bow and arrow. If you don’t know where the target is, how will you get the arrow into the bullseye? Without knowing where the target is, you’re at risk of hitting a random tree, various native animals, or that friend you invited along to have some fun! Oops! As you can see, if you don’t know where that target is, you may end up “hitting” a disaster!
When doing my energy work, I tend to ask for help in what I need to release in order to help my client achieve a specific desire around health, love, wealth, or any other topic they desire, and I’m taken to various limiting beliefs and imbalances which have been holding them back from achieving what they want.
But I first need to have an idea of what my client actually wants before we can get there, right?
For example, I had a client with a skin condition which was causing her a great deal of discomfort. What she wanted was pretty clear – she wanted her skin to be clear and healthy, so we focused on that. Before long the skin condition had cleared up. I had another client who was wanting to attract more wealth into her life – she had a specific target at work she wanted to achieve, so we did the work to help her achieve that, and guess what? She did it! Not only that but she also attracted an out-of-the-blue bonus, a promotion, and free accommodation for a few weeks!
Let’s look at other areas of your life…
If you are struggling to find the relationship that you want, what are you focused on? The fact that you’re lonely and miserable? Or are you focused on getting clear on the type of man and type of relationship that you want, and going for that? I can tell you now that this matters – a LOT! And if you’re struggling to find your “Mr Right”, then your focus could be why.
When you are coming from the place of the solution as opposed to the place of the problem, you will find that the answers will come to you more freely, whether they’re coming from a healing session, your intuition, or even your guides. As you act on this information, you will begin to move closer to what you want and further away from what you don’t want.
Journaling exercise
Write down the details of each of the problems you wish to solve on one side of a page. On the other side of the page, write down what the solution would be, as though it’s already happened.
For example, you may have written “Can’t find a decent man” on the left, and on the right, you could write, “I am now in a loving relationship with the perfect man for me”. This is actually the exact phrased I wrote down only a few months before I met my gorgeous husband!
Once you have gotten clear on what your solution looks like let the stuff on the left side of your page go – it’s not serving you anymore and it’s time to shift your focus to what you DO want from now on!
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