Why is self love so important?

I’ve received a number of emails this week, plus I’ve seen a number of Facebook posts recently, where the writer is clearly struggling with self love, and this is actually kind of sad. Why is self love so important?

Self love is extremely important, because without it, you’re very likely to make choices for yourself that do not serve you. In fact, you may even make choices which are potentially putting you into a lot of danger.

I know of a young woman who seems to be on this journey of self sabotage which is frightening. She’s been in Asian countries in the possession of drugs and managed to get arrested in one country before being deported (she’s lucky she wasn’t put to death!!!), and today I read a post she’d put up about being in a car with a guy she’d only just met on Tinder! The guy could have been an axe murderer for all she knew – and thankfully all he did was abandon her at a gas station, driving off and leaving her there when she went inside to grab some food!

A woman with self love will not purposely put herself in danger. She will honour her importance in this world and will never allow anybody to treat her badly and get away with it. Treat her badly, and she’s outta there!

I didn’t have a lot of self love when I was younger, so I get it. I also get that my lack of self love drove me to tolerate behaviours I would not tolerate now.

A woman with self love will love herself more than she could ever love any man. She will make life choices which will help her to learn and grow. She will experience life fully, and she will love those around her without sacrificing her own wants and needs. She will speak up if she feels she needs to speak up, and she will walk away from anybody who treats her badly.

So how does a person increase their level of self love? There are a few things you can do, but here’s just a few:

1. Every day, come up with one of the qualities you like most about yourself, and focus on that for the day. They don’t have to be physical qualities – emotional or intellectual qualities or even the value you provide to others is a great start.
2. Set small goals for yourself and set out to achieve them.
3. Consider the various areas of your life and whether you are loving yourself as much as you could be.

These are a tiny number of things you can do to start improving your level of self love, but if you apply these over the next month or so, I’m betting you are going to experience some internal change – and an increase in your self love! <3