As a dating coach, I talk to many women who are seeking love and lasting relationships. One thing comes across quite strongly: People with a good level of self confidence have a distinct advantage in dating in that their confidence is like a beacon of light that draws their desired partner in like moths!
When I was younger I was extremely insecure. This was difficult to tell from the outside, but inside, I really struggled. It took me many years of pain and heartache to get myself to where I am now, and thankfully you won’t have to do the same, because I am here to help you!
From low confidence and self esteem to living my purpose
Being a trained coach I recognise now that my low self confidence was caused by some old beliefs I had about myself when I was young. These beliefs had grown over time, and they became this big “bubble” of self doubt, which in turned helped me to attract men that added to the self doubt and this kept my confidence and self esteem as low as it could go!
Clearly this led me along a path that had me marry somebody who emotionally beat me down, but of course this was the energy I was pushing out to the world, so no man open to this energy had any choice but to treat me this way! My insecurity literally repelled good men, which is something I never realised. Being a secure person now, I can see why. An insecure man is a massive turnoff for me. What a revelation!
Many years later, I have worked on increasing my confidence and self esteem, to become a person who feels great joy in helping others to build theirs.
I have personally experienced what it is like to go from rock-bottom confidence and self esteem, to elevating myself beyond where I ever thought possible, and I am truly happy now. Not only that but this newer version of me helped to attract the love of my life!
It was a long road for me to get to where I am now, but then again, I didn’t have the resources available to me back then like I do now. We didn’t even have internet! Yes… I am OLD!
Feel the fear but do it anyway!
One thing to keep in mind that some people seem to exude unstoppable confidence, but even they have doubts about themselves from time to time. And that’s ok!
One way to build your confidence is when you feel afraid but you do it anyway. This goes for dating in particular. You may be afraid of getting hurt. But if you don’t date, you will never meet the man of your dreams, right?
How coaching and mentoring helps to you to build a healthy level of confidence and self esteem
Even the most successful people in the world have engaged a coach or a mentor, and while their coaching/mentoring is usually related to business, it shows that having someone walking your path beside you is a very powerful way to achieve success.
If you want to learn to ski, you obviously hire a ski instructor, right? The same goes for dating. If you believe you’re not good at dating or attracting a good mate, then maybe it’s time to consider getting some help in that department!
Like with personal trainers, not everyone can afford to pay a personal trainer one on one, but trainers often offer bootcamp programs where you can be trained as a member of a small group.
This is where I come in. I provide training and coaching on both a group or one-one basis so that you can select the type of help you need to suit your budget.
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