If you are seeing a pattern of a person or people treating you badly, your kids don’t respect you, your partner is putting you down, or your friends seem to have turned their backs on you, it is time to take a good look at how you are treating yourself.
Do you put yourself down for not doing this, or for doing that? Are you hard on yourself, especially when things don’t quite go the way you had planned? Do you mentally beat yourself up every time you eat something you shouldn’t or whenever you skip going to the gym?
When you find somebody in your life is treating you badly, more often than not it’s a reflection of how you’ve been treating yourself. What you are doing by treating yourself this way, is teaching those around you that this treatment of you is ok. Do you really want this for yourself? I didn’t think so!
When we’re not being nice to ourselves, it’s not often done consciously, so becoming aware of what you’re doing, is the first step to making positive change.
So whenever you catch yourself saying nasty things, just say “Stop!”, then say three nice things to yourself to counteract the negative.
And the next time somebody says something nasty or are disrespectful towards you, here’s something you could say:
“I know I’ve been teaching you how to treat me, because this is how I’ve been treating myself. But I’ve made some changes and I’m no longer treating myself that way, so I won’t allow others to treat me that way either.”
As you turn off the negative self talk, you’re going to start to see some positive changes around you, such as people treating you better than they had been before.
Give it a try, and see what happens!
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