Do you have low self esteem?

·        Do you consider yourself lost, unworthy of being cared for?

·        Are you a poor risk taker?

·        Do you operate out of a fear of rejection?

·        Are you typically unassertive in your behavior with others?

·        Are you fearful of conflict with others?

·        Are you hungry for the approval of others?

·        Are you a poor problem solver?

·        Are you fraught with irrational beliefs and have a tendency to think irrationally?

·        Are you susceptible to all kinds of fears?

·        Do you have a tendency to become emotionally stuck and immobilized?

·        Do you have a poor "track record" in school or on the job?

·        Are you unable to affirm or to reinforce yourself positively?

·        Are you unable to make an honest assessment of your strengths, qualities, and good points?f

·        Do you have poorly defined self-identities with a tendency to be a chameleon in order to fit in with others?

·        Are you insecure, anxious, and nervous when you are with others?

·        Do you often become overcome with anger about your status in life and are you likely to have chronic hostility or chronic depression?

·        Are you easily overcome with despair and depression when you experience a setback or loss in your life?

·        Do you have a tendency to overreact and become de-energized by resentment, anger, and the desire for revenge against those whom you believe have not fully accepted you?

·        Do you fulfill roles in your family of origin that are counter-productive and maladaptive. 

·        Are you vulnerable to mental health problems and have a propensity to use addictive behavior to medicate your hurt and pain?  Such addictive behavior can include alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, sex, shopping, smoking, working too much, or the search for excitement, truth, wisdom.

Think about what you do from day to day.  Think about your interaction with others, and note your inner personal dialogue.  What are you saying to yourself?  How do you feel about yourself?

The first step towards fixing your self esteem is first realising you have a problem with it!

Until next time, have a great day!