What do I do if somebody is trying to bring me down?

It’s a sad fact that you’re going to meet people in your life who seem like they’re out to destroy your happiness.

The thing is, there is absolutely nothing you can do to control their behaviour, but there’s everything you can do to control your response to their behaviour, and this is the key to long-lasting happiness and inner peace.

These people who try to bring you down, do so because they know on some level (usually subconsciously) that they are below you. So what they’re doing is a tactic to bring you to their level in order to make themselves feel better. The problem with this is that it never works to resolve their negative, toxic feelings, and actually feeds their sadness. They’re in a terrible vicious cycle, and unless they change the way they think, they will stay there indefinitely.

So… what do we do about it? How do we control our responses to the behaviours of these types of people so that they can’t destroy our happiness and inner peace?

Here are a few things you can do:

1. Be aware that they are only doing this because they’re below you.
2. Be aware that they are not happy in their life, otherwise they wouldn’t be trying to destroy your inner peace.
3. Know that only YOU can control YOU, and they cannot control you in any way, unless you let them.
4. Focus on all of the good things you have in your life, write in your gratitude journal every day, noting down all of the things you have that you are grateful for.
5. Make a point to focus on your happiness and on your goals, every single day.
6. When you notice you’re starting to think about that person or you feel their energy affecting you, say “STOP!” in your mind, then focus on something uplifting, like a good book, on nature, or your family.
7. Do what you can to avoid being around that person who is trying to bring you down.
8. Go for a walk in nature, or work out your frustrations at the gym!
9. Crank up some uplifting music, and dance and sing along.
10. Run yourself a warm bath, turn on some relaxing music, and force yourself to think of positive things.

Obviously there’s a lot more you can do than this, but this is a start. Really, what you need to be doing is focus on the good, turn your back on the bad, and avoid anybody that drains your energy, as much as you can.

Here’s to positive thoughts and energy coming your way! <3