How to shift your belief about someone or something you don’t like

Howdy! When we last talked, I was rambling on about the “observer effect” and how it plays a big part in what we see in our reality.

We learned that our brains are very clever at shifting things around so that we’re only observing things which match our thoughts or beliefs.

This is great when the things you observe are things we want, but what if you’re observing something that you do not want? What if you are working with that bully of a coworker, Molly?

If you’re observing something that you do not want, then it is clear that there is something active in your vibration (and therefore your thoughts and beliefs) which support this thing. So today I’m going to talk to you about how you shift that belief so that you can begin to observe things that you do want!

I’m going to use our friend Molly as an example. From your perspective, Molly is a bully. She bullies you constantly and you’re sick of it! Based on what we learned last time however, Molly may actually be a really lovely person, but thanks to the observer effect, any recognition of the times when she matches this picture, are left on the cutting room floor. So… in order to shift reality, we first need to shift our beliefs. This process may take some time to work, but I promise you, it does – with people, with situations, with your job, with anything!

This process is called the “Book of positive aspects”. It comes from the Abraham-Hicks book, “Ask and it is given” – GREAT book – you must buy it! So here goes:

1. Get yourself a lined notebook – you’re going to be doing some writing.
2. At the top of the page, write the date, and write the heading. The heading will be the topic of your focus, so today the heading will be called “Molly”.
3. Now it’s time to brainstorm and come up with all of the things you like about Molly. This won’t be easy, because she’s truly been a cow to you lately, but persevere here. Maybe she’s smart, or maybe she wears nice clothes. Maybe she is good at your job.
4. Write these things down.
5. Whenever you’re at work and Molly is nearby, without looking creepy, see if you can come up with more positive things to write about her. Did she give you the correct answer for something you were needing help with, or was she really nice to so-and-so?
6. After you’ve written, visualise a scenario with Molly, and imagine she’s being really kind and helpful toward you. Feel how that feels and really embody those emotions.
7. Every day, repeat this process, and keep repeating this process until you begin to see a shift in how Molly treats you – and I guarantee that if you’ve followed this process properly, things will improve!

And there you have it! This simple process will train your brain to search for the good in Molly. Over time, new pathways will be created inside your brain, which will in turn create a new belief that Molly’s actually a really great person. You may not like her so much (her personality just doesn’t mesh with yours, which is perfectly ok – we’re not supposed to like every single person we cross paths with!), but the bullying is likely to stop, which is exactly the outcome you were looking for.

So why not apply this process to any other situation you have in your life that you do not like?

Try it – and be sure to let me know how much your life has improved!