How to stop stories in your head

Ok, that’s a bit of a strange title for a post, but I couldn’t think of anything else (it’s nearly my bed time and my brain is ready for sleep!).

A friend of mine attended an event on the weekend that she says completely changed how she looks at things in her life.

One of the things talked about at the event was the stories we tell ourselves in certain situations.  For example, if you’ve not heard from someone in a while, do you tend to think up reasons as to why they’ve not called or contacted you?  Do you wonder if they don’t like you anymore, or did they just lose your phone number?  Could it be the guy you dated the other night has decided that he no longer wants to see you?

One thing she learned was that the stories we tell ourselves can be harmful to our self esteem, because we tend to think up stories that make us feel bad about ourselves, and come to think of it, I think it’s true!

One way of counteracting this when you find you’re telling yourself another story, stop and realise that people have their own reasons why they do certain things or act certain ways.  Worrying about it and making up stories is really a complete waste of time.

Don’t you have better, more productive things to do with your time?  Who cares what people think of you?  You’re a wonderful person and if they don’t like you then there’s nothing you can do about it.  If they do like you (and you like them!), then great!



  1. That’s true that you have to stop worrying about what other people think of you.
    You are who you are, a “perfect” human being with all your strengths and weaknesses. You have to accept that, smile as much as possible and a whole new world will open up for you.

  2. Michelle Green says:

    You are so right! Thank you for your comment!

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