Dating tips – How to have self confidence while dating


Being single can be hard, but it can also be fun, as I know first hand!

After being with the same person for 9 years, suddenly finding myself single was definitely an eye-opener, but I made the decision early on to just get out there and enjoy it!

If you’re lacking in confidence, it can be a little daunting to go on a first date, because you’re wondering if they will like you, you hope you don’t do something wrong, or you just feel self conscious about every word you say and every move you make.

The tips and thoughts below should help you out if you’re lacking confidence while dating:

1. Dress appropriately – it is usually better to be slightly over dressed than under dressed. Also, if you know you’re looking good, then your confidence naturally increases!

2. Smile lots and make regular eye contact (take care not to stare!)

3. Remember, if it’s your first date, then they are probably as nervous as you.

4. If things don’t work out, the sky will NOT fall in – even if you really like him/her!!

5. Dating is for getting to know each other – not so you can make a lifelong commitment to each other. Remember that!

6. If they don’t like you for who you are, then they’re not meant to be (I found this tip to be very helpful!)

7. Be yourself (see number 6).

8. If you asked him/her out on the date, then you should pay (my personal opinion!) if it’s a first date. If they offer then politely decline, however if they push it, then give in gracefully and allow them to pay half (or less).

9. Be sure to ask them about themselves (don’t interrogate them) and try not to talk too much about yourself. People get turned off by people who seem self-absorbed. Show a genuine interest in what they are saying.

10. Life is there to enjoy, so enjoy your date and stop worrying about what other people think of you!

The main point here is to remember that it is just a date. If things don’t go as planned, then they didn’t go as planned. Worrying about things after the fact really is a waste of time and effort and if you can learn from your experience, then it was worth it!

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