Why did my man cheat? Some of the reasons behind infidelity…

The first thing I want to say about this is that no man will cheat for no reason. A man who is 100% happy in his relationship and is having all of his needs met, will have no reason to cheat.

But all too many men do cheat, so it brings up the question as to why…

Firstly, let’s focus on us!

To feel happy and secure in a relationship, there are three things that must be in place.

These are:

  1. We must feel cherished.
  2. We must feel like we are cared for.
  3. We must feel secure with our man.

If any or all of these are missing, it’s likely we will withdraw or hold back from a man. Many women will hold back on sex, because they don’t feel emotionally safe with him. Some women cheat for this reason.

On the other hand, a man needs to feel:

  1. Like he is admired by us (possibly an ego thing?).
  2. Acknowledged.
  3. Appreciated for all of the things he does for us.

Again, if any or all of these things are missing, he may also withdraw or hold back. And again this is often why they tend to look outside of the marriage – to get the validation they’re not getting inside.

Infidelity is never black or white – there’s always two sides to the story, plus there’s the truth, which sits in that grey area.

If you suspect your man is cheating, have a good, long, hard and honest look at yourself first. How are you pushing your man away? Is there something YOU can do to improve the quality of your relationship?

Infidelity doesn’t necessarily mean the end of a relationship (although more often than not it does), and if you love your guy, then maybe there’s hope – if he also loves you.

But before things can get better, you both must look at your own part in this and make positive changes. Otherwise you can both keep doing what you’ve always done, and get the same results! xxx

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