What do I do if my man is not doing things to make me happy?

You have this guy in your life and it seems he’s failing at making you happy….

He knows you want more attention from him, he knows you want him to say more nice things to you and he knows you want him to do more things for you, but he just won’t do it, and you feel as though he just doesn’t care about you anymore.

He used to do these things, so why can’t he do them now?

Let me ask you this…

Since when was it HIS responsbility to make YOU happy??

The poor guy is probably feeling as though he can’t do a single thing right. And do you know what happens when a guy feels that way? He gives up! He figures that if no matter what he does, you’re not gonna be happy, then why bother?

Ok, so this doesn’t mean that you can’t inspire your guy to do the things for you that he used to do, but let me tell you now that constantly pointing out to him what he’s doing wrong, is NOT going to work in your favour!

So… what CAN you do?

The first thing you’ve got to understand is that only YOU are responsible for making you happy – it’s not up to your man, or anyone else. It’s up to YOU!

Do you want to know how you can do this, without worrying about what your man is (or isn’t) doing for you? Read on…

  1. First thing you must do is shift your focus back to you and work out what you loved to do before he came along. Write those things down.
  2. Realise that you cannot change a man – EVER! So you either accept him as he is, or you move on.
  3. Begin to do things that make you happy – with or without him. Do you have a hobbie or an interest you could really get stuck into?
  4. Take care of yourself – when was the last time you did something nice for yourself? Give yourself some pampering, or prepare some healthy meals, or even go for a walk or do another type of exercise.
  5. Focus on the positives – what you focus on grows bigger. So focus on the good things your man is doing for you. If the not so good things aren’t deal breakers, then realise that you have a choice to pick your battles and non-deal breakers are probably not the battles worth fighting.

My point here is that you cannot expect someone else to make you happy – you really have to be happy within yourself.

So what can you do to make yourself a happier, more accepting woman? :)

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