It’s completely normal to let negative thoughts get into your head, and I have personally let it take over me too. It’s an awful feeling and I know how difficult it can be to “snap” out of it.

We often do this because sometimes doing so seems “easier”. If you’re often in this state of mind, you kind of get used to it, so to make a positive change feels a little scary or uncomfortable.

Snapping out of it isn’t easy though, and it does take consistent effort. Now as this post suggests, you can try visualising the butterfly as outlined in the steps above. But if that doesn’t work for you, then try instead to focus on something that makes you feel good. Something positive in your life, or something you REALLY want to do with your life. Do this for at least two or three minutes every single day (it might help to put a reminder beside your bed). Over time, you are “teaching” your mind to think of more positive things. Eventually you will think less of the negataives.

Now, we all have regrets (I used to have many!), and as you know, what’s happened in the past cannot be changed. We have absolutely NO control over what has happened in the past, so to dwell on these things is going to change nothing. So what CAN you change in your future? What CAN you control? What good can you do to make up for the past regret?

If you’ve hurt a person in the past, it may not be possible to make things right with that person, so instead, why not make somebody else’s life a little better by donating to charity, or doing a good deed for somebody in need?

And finally, you’re a guy. And as a guy you are going to fantastise about sex etc, and to have homosexual thoughts does NOT mean you are gay either (not that there’s anything wrong with that, but just having the thoughts does not make you so). You’re also young, and it’s very common when you’re young to fantasise about different aspects of your sexuality, as you get comfortable being you.

I can assure you that as you get older, you will begin to “grow into your skin” so to speak, as you find your place in the world.

I hope this has helped you a little.

An amazing friend of mine has a free site you can join where you can set up your very own bucket list, and plan it out, right to the smallest detail.

Check it out here: http://selfconfidence101.com/recommends/thrillionaire.html

Have a great day!

Aim for a list of 100 items if you can! If you can’t get to 100, then just keep adding to your list as you think of new things and you will get there eventually.

Thanks for sharing, and i totally agreed to invest in yourself and once it is in you, it belong to you forever.