What are you focusing on?

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jump4joy 150x150 What are you focusing on?When you’re in a bad situation it’s easy to get caught up in how terrible things are, and you find you’re focusing on all of the negatives about your situation.

What you’re probably not realising is that by focusing on the negatives, you’re only attracting more negatives into your life, so today I’m going to give you a tool to help you change your focus.

I’m currently reading a book titled Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don’t What are you focusing on? by Michael J Losier, and it talks about how you attract into your life what you think about.

So for example, if you’re in a bad relationship, you’re feeling really bad about yourself or your career is going nowhere, and this is all you think about, then chances are that things are not going to improve for you anytime soon.

All is not lost however.  Here is how you can turn this around, and in many cases, in a very short space of time.

The first thing you need to do is work out what it is you DO want.  Do you want a better relationship, do you want to feel good about yourself and do you want to boost your career prospects?

Once you’ve worked out what you want in your life, focus on these wants – and forgot about the “don’t wants”.  The less you think of them, the smaller they will become!   And the more you focus on what you do want, the more of what you want you will attract into your life.

Just by changing our outlook from negative to positive will create some significant changes for you.

Try it for a week and see what you notice has changed…! icon smile What are you focusing on?

2011 is Almost Here!

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pinkbutterfly 150x150 2011 is Almost Here!2011 is almost upon us, and if you’re anything like me you’re looking back at the year that’s gone and contemplating the year ahead.

I’ve had a very tough and challenging year where I made some drastic life changes, but I don’t regret making these changes and I’m excited about the year ahead.  I believe that 2011 is going to be an amazing year and I can’t wait to welcome the new year in!

If you’ve not done so already, now would be the perfect time to start thinking about how you want 2011 to look.  What goals do you want to achieve?  If you’ve not done so already, grab your free goals and priorities diary – see http://selfconfidence101.com/tools/the-goals-and-priorities-diary-free/ for more info.

I’m excited to say that next year I plan to visit some other parts of the world – including Egypt!  I’ve wanted to see the pyramids of Egypt since FOREVER and am now making plans to get there later in the year.  How exciting!!

Another goal of mine is to significantly improve my ability to save.  I started a savings plan earlier this year, and so far it’s working well!  I save 10% of every cent I earn, and it actually feels REALLY good!  Yay me!

And finally, my biggest goal of all is to make Self Confidence 101 the best it can be!  My goal for 2011 is to help women in particular who are suffering with low self esteem in the best way I can.  I want to provide the best tools and information to help women all over the world to change their lives dramatically for the better.  I want there to be a LOT more happy people out there in 2011 and I want to help make that happen!

Now, one last thing I want to suggest to you is that all achievements should be rewarded in some way.  I rewarded myself this year with the most amazing trip to Los Angels with a close friend of mine.  We had a blast!  We stayed with her brother in the Hollywood Hills, we attended a movie premier, and I finally got to see for myself just how big food portion sizes are over there!  OMG!   Sooo soooo soooo much fun!

Have you rewarded yourself for your achievements in 2010?  It doesn’t have to cost anything – even allowing yourself a day to relax and do absolutely nothing is reward enough!  How will you reward yourself in 2011?  Give yourself a good incentive to succeed!

I’ll sign off now and would like to thank you for your support over the last year or more and I look forward to helping you to make 2011 the most amazing year it can be!

The Goals and Priorities Diary – Free!

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goal 150x150 The Goals and Priorities Diary   Free!A Facebook friend of mine, Michele Connolly, has created the Goals and Priorities Diary to help you get organised in 2011 and she’s offering it for free (Normally around $24.95 from her website) if you like her Get Organised Wizard page on Facebook (found here: http://www.facebook.com/GetOrganizedWizard?v=app_10442206389 )

The diary includes a section to write down your yearly and monthly and daily goals, and even a section to write down the goals you have achieved.

What a great way to start moving forward in 2011!

Just “Like” her Facebook page as noted above, then follow the instructions to get your free copy.

Enjoy!

Small changes in mindset can create huge changes to your life…

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How small changes in mindset can create huge changes to your life…
Anybody who knows me also knows that I’ve been on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster ride for some time now since I made the decision to end my second marriage.
While I know I have made the right decision, I’ve struggled to maintain my positive attitude at times, and I’ve not been happy about that!
I have been conscious of the fact that I’m not in a positive mindset, and I’ve “tried” to change it, but with only limited success.
But several weeks ago I finally discovered the answer – I now know how to keep my energy positive, which is how I want it to be!
As I mentioned above, I’ve been on a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride.  I’ll be happy and positive about my future sometimes, and at other times I am wondering how on earth I found myself in this situation – again!!  I suppose I’ve mentally beaten myself up a bit too, which is not good.
My focus on my lifelong goals has wavered and I’ve just been living from day to day, with no real direction or idea of where I’m now headed.
Then one day I realised that sitting around waiting for life to happen to me was not going to get me anywhere!  I had to refocus on my goals and do something about them!  I had to get out of my “limbo land” mindset (while waiting for our house to sell so I can move out on my own, I’ve been living here with my ex husband, so I felt “stuck”) and start working towards achieving my goals – I stopped letting my current living situation dictate my level of focus.
So I began thinking about what I want in my life, started writing in my grattitude journal (I have this really cute iPhone application that allows me to write down what I’m grateful for, no matter where I am!), and then out of the blue I was invited to attend some training by a friend of a close friend.
This training was about crafting a presentation about your topic of interest.  It was much, much more than that though, and delved into discovering your passions and all sorts of wonderful things.  And finally I realised exactly what I wanted to be doing!
I walked away from that weekend feeling pumped and energised and finally I was EXCITED about my future again!
Since then I’ve attended Meetups focused on public speaking, I’ve been listening in on webinars, have picked up my studies and can now see myself moving closer to my goal, which is to help even more people (and women in particular) overcome low confidence and self esteem!
Not only that, but I have been offered an amazing opportunity to work with my newest mentor, which is just the most amazing thing ever!
So while there have not been so many “physical” changes to my life, I am feeling a thousand times more positive about life.  Opportunities have started coming my way, such as a woman I met recently who works closely with women from all over the world who said to me, “I can help you” when we taked about what I want to do.  Wow!
This is just the beginning! icon smile Small changes in mindset can create huge changes to your life...

Anybody who knows me also knows that I’ve been on a bit of an emotional rollercoaster ride for some time now since I made the decision to end my second marriage.

While I know I have made the right decision, I’ve struggled to maintain my positive attitude at times, and I’ve not been happy about that!

I have been conscious of the fact that I’m not in a positive mindset, and I’ve “tried” to change it, but with only limited success.

But several weeks ago I finally discovered the answer – I now know how to keep my energy positive, which is how I want it to be!

As I mentioned above, I’ve been on a bit of an emotional roller coaster ride.  I’ll be happy and positive about my future sometimes, and at other times I am wondering how on earth I found myself in this situation – again!!  I suppose I’ve mentally beaten myself up a bit too, which is not good.

My focus on my lifelong goals has wavered and I’ve just been living from day to day, with no real direction or idea of where I’m now headed.

Then one day I realised that sitting around waiting for life to happen to me was not going to get me anywhere!  I had to refocus on my goals and do something about them!  I had to get out of my “limbo land” mindset (while waiting for our house to sell so I can move out on my own, I’ve been living here with my ex husband, so I felt “stuck”) and start working towards achieving my goals – I stopped letting my current living situation dictate my level of focus.

So I began thinking about what I want in my life, started writing in my grattitude journal (I have this really cute iPhone application that allows me to write down what I’m grateful for, no matter where I am!), and then out of the blue I was invited to attend some training by a friend of a close friend.

This training was about crafting a presentation about your topic of interest.  It was much, much more than that though, and delved into discovering your passions and all sorts of wonderful things.  And finally I realised exactly what I wanted to be doing!

I walked away from that weekend feeling pumped and energised and finally I was EXCITED about my future again!

Since then I’ve attended Meetups focused on public speaking, I’ve been listening in on webinars, have picked up my studies and can now see myself moving closer to my goal, which is to help even more people (and women in particular) overcome low confidence and self esteem!

Not only that, but I have been offered an amazing opportunity to work with my newest mentor, which is just the most amazing thing ever!

So while there have not been so many “physical” changes to my life, I am feeling a thousand times more positive about life.  Opportunities have started coming my way, such as a woman I met recently who works closely with women from all over the world who said to me, “I can help you” when we taked about what I want to do.  Wow!

So here’s what a small shift in mindset (choosing to focus on your goals and dreams) can do:

  • Opportunities seem to magically come your way
  • The “right” people cross your path at just the right time
  • You feel more positive about your life
  • You attract more positive people into your life
  • You feel a lot better about yourself – you’re finally working towards something worthwhile!

What to do if you lack motivation

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I’ve done a bit of reflecting lately becuase I’ve wanted to lose a little bit of weight but was struggling to stay motivated.

Why was it so hard for me to get out of bed to exercise?  Why was I constantly making excuses to sleep in for an extra half an hour when I knew what I wanted to achieve?

And then I worked it out!  “Looking good” just wasn’t high enough on my list of values!  Instead I had things like “achievement”, “success”, and other such values.

So how did this help?

Well, I realised that I needed to do something that would not only be congruent with my list of values, but one that would give me a sense of achievement or success.

So I signed up to compete in a triathlon!  Eeeek!

In 72 days I will compete in my first ever triathlon!  I’m not in it to win it (although that would be nice), but to just complete it will bring me a great sense of achievement!

Finally I have found something that gives me reason to get out of bed and exercise!  I don’t feel like it’s a chore because I’m working towards something that I want to achieve.

So what can you do to help you acheive your goals?  What can you work towards so that it no longer seems like a chore?

When was the last time you reviewed your goals?

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goal 150x150 When was the last time you reviewed your goals?If you have read through this website you will know that I truly believe that through setting goals you can dramatically boost your self confidence and self esteem.

The reason I think this is because achieving any goal, no matter how small it is, will give you some sense of achievement. As you gradually create bigger and better goals, you will begin to see some dramatic changes in your mindset too.

You will consider some challenges as “nothing” when once upon a time, the same challenges used to scare the life out of you! The standards you set for yourself improve too.

Setting goals and striving to achieve them is also a lot of fun! What is your biggest goal? What can you do each day to get you closer to your goal? How excited do you feel as you get closer?!

So if you have goals, when was the last time you reviewed them? (You have written them down, right?).

Sometimes as we go through life we kind of grow out of some of our goals, and that’s perfectly ok – as long as you replace them with new goals!

Set up a time over the next week to really focus on your goals and give them the attention they deserve – you will be glad you did!

If you’ve got some huge goals that you have absolutely NO idea how you’re going to achieve them, visit The Thrillionaires. This site is officially launching on August 24 (the date has changed, for anybody who has already taken a look) and it’s free to join.

The idea is to fill out your own goal list and then start living all of your wildest dreams.

Depending on what you want to do, the Thrillionaires community even helps you find the funding to pursue those dreams. People are joining all over the world–with incredible stories and achievements, so be sure to at least check it out and sign up for free.

Goal Achieved! I Have Quit My Job!

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Good morning! It’s been a while since I last posted and I truly apologise – life has been amazingly hectic and has changed dramatically over the past few weeks, which I am going to tell you about now, in case you haven’t read of my story – I’m so excited!

On May 19 I came across a somebody called Barry Walls on the Warrior Forum (a forum for internet marketers). Somebody had started a thread that talked about her celebrating her success after being awarded $20 commission on a ClickBank sale. She had been working at it for 7 long months.

Most people responded with encouragement and congratulations, except Barry.

Barry wasn’t all that “congratulatory”! In fact, he said he could have worked in a third world country during that time and walked away with more money! This generated many harsh comments towards him, but I realised that he was 100% right in what he said. Ok, he didn’t have to be so harsh, but what he said was 100% true.

So many people work their butts off for very little reward, and he was simply pointing this out.

He went on to say was that he could teach her to make more than that (he even suggested up to $1000 per DAY!) within a few months. He even offered her FREE coaching!

She did not take him up on his offer. I, on the other hand, wanted to know more – a LOT more, so I contacted him.

I wanted to know what he had to offer. He told me what he had been coaching people face to face and they had all experienced amazing results. I wanted in, so asked him how much I could pay him to coach me.

He told me that he almost had ready an online version of his coaching program, and he’d offer me a discount if I was prepared to be a “guinea pig” so to speak, and to help him by offering feedback on each module as they came through.

My credit card was out within a millisecond and I got started! I was THAT desperate to lose my full time job and work from home, I was prepared to try anything that worked!

So I began the course, which taught me how to get work writing articles for other business owners. Prior to this I had been writing and submitting my own articles to article directories, and of course on my websites, so this wasn’t anything new, although I’d never written for somebody else before.

What I love about what I do now is the fact that I get to choose who I write for and therefore the type of writing I do, so many of my clients are fellow Life Coaches!

6 weeks after I began the course, I was making enough to quit my job. I was pretty well-paid before in my job, so to see these results in only 6 weeks – well, I’ve never experienced that before and I’ve done a lot of courses!

This post wasn’t supposed to be all about the course I’m doing though. It’s supposed to be about the goal I had written down only a few months ago.

I was extremely passionate about my goal because this goal was about life change for me. I no longer wanted to get up at 5am, work all day and go to bed at night without having the time or the freedom to spend with my children. They mean everything to me, and I was being deprived of my right to enjoy being with them!

We all have choices in life, and my choice was to take my life into my own hands and make some drastic changes. It took a long time, but it was so totally worth it.

My goal was to be working from home and making more money than I was in my job. At this point it didn’t matter how much more – I just wanted it to be more! icon smile Goal Achieved! I Have Quit My Job! The date I had written on my goal card was June 30.

I left my job on June 26! How good is THAT!!??

Now I truly believe that if I hadn’t written down my goal and wasn’t as specific as I was, then I really don’t know if Barry Walls and I would have crossed paths. If we did, I’m not sure I would have tracked him down and insisted that he coach me!

So whatever your goal, be specific and write it down, and be sure to give your goal a due date to generate a sense of urgency – you will be glad you did!

If you like to write and would like to know more about Barry’s course, visit http://use-sell.com/2/s81718/1512454ig/101847

Should I review my goals?

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Have you written down your goals? If so, when was the last time you reviewed them? If you haven’t, then why not?? icon wink Should I review my goals?

Our lives are quickly passing us by and it is little wonder that tasks such as reviewing our goals get pushed aside but they are important, so must be treated as such!

So here’s something you can do over the next week or so.

Set aside one hour to review your goals. Are they still relevant? Are you on track? Have you achieved part or all of them? Do you think you could now achieve more? If so, modify your goal and make it more challenging!

Are there more things you want to achieve that you didn’t think of last time you sat down and looked at your goals? Write them down too!

There is no better way to improve your outlook on life than to have something to strive for. And once you get there, you also have that wonderful sense of achievement!

So reviewing your goals on a regular basis is definitely something you should do on a monthly or bi-monthly basis.

My hubby is going to become a personal trainer!

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My husband told me today that he wanted to be a personal trainer.

He has always been sporty (unlike myself!) and loves working out, going to the gym and keeping fit, so it was no surprise to me when he mentioned his goal. I wondered what had taken him so long!?

Becoming a qualified personal trainer is expensive and requires a lot of hard work, so today we set about finding a way to help him achieve this goal, and of course we did!

We found the best course for him and he will confirm tomorrow if he can do distance study and he is on his way!

Often when we have a goal that requires a large financial cost, we find we tell ourselves we “can’t afford it” or “it’s too much”. But if the goal is something you really want, then changing these words to something more like “how can I afford this?” or “what can I do to make this happen?” will definitely put a different spin on things.

You will also realise very quickly that just by changing how you look at situations like this, you automatically create alternatives for yourself. It’s amazing!

The first step to achieving what you want

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The first step to achieving what you want in life is desiring it like nothing else.

You really, really must want what it is you are working towards to get it.

Now think about this. If you’re not exactly clear about what you want, then how can you truly desire it?

So here’s what you need to do:

Go away and work out exactly what it is that you want.

Don’t say something like “A million dollars” because money is just a means to get what you want.

What would that million dollars get you? What kind of lifestyle would it give you? What could you do if you had that money?

What kind of life do you truly desire?