When the Law of Attraction “isn’t working”

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How do you know if the Law of Attraction (LOA) is “working”? How will you know that you are starting to manifest your greatest desires?

I’m a member of a Facebook group that talks about manifesting these great desires, and I often see posts from people saying “Oh I’ve done everything I’m supposed to do but nothing is happening.” or “Why haven’t I manifested what I want yet? I’ve been doing this stuff for ages!”

I cringe every time I see these posts, and do you want to know why? Those words are repelling everything they’ve spent so much of their time trying to attract or manifest!

Here’s the thing…

The LOA is working all of the time, day and night. It attracts what you want, it attracts what you don’t want, depending on your state of mind and your subconscious thoughts.

Some people seem to think that if they write down their desires enough times and visualise enough times, they’ll get what they want, and when it doesn’t, they get frustrated and say “it doesn’t work!”. Hmmmm…

One thing that most of these people don’t realise, is that if you’re clinging desperately to getting what it is you desire, you’re actually coming from a place of lack! Do you know what that means? Yes! You will attract more lack!

So how do we get the things we want in life? How do we get the LOA to work for us? These simple steps will send you on your way!

  1. Decide what you want
  2. Write down your desire, in present tense, as though you had already received it and look at it every day
  3. Visualise yourself with whatever it is you desire, daily
  4. Take action to help you get closer to your goal
  5. Trust that the Universe will deliver what you have asked for, or something better, when you are ready to receive it!

Sometimes we think we want something, without realising that there is something (or someone) better out there, but trusting that this or something better is coming our way, will bring it your way when it’s supposed to come your way.

The bottom line here is that you’ve got to be ok with not getting what it is you desire, even if you want it, and you have to trust that it will manifest in its own time.

Years ago I was buying a house, and I was having a lot of trouble securing a loan to buy it. I eventually got sick of having to jump through so many hoops, so I started to consider my other options. I could rent a house elsewhere, which would be much nicer than the house I was buying, for example. So I had a Plan B!

As soon as I was ok with my Plan B, guess what happened? My loan was approved! Funny that!

The Wheel of Life – How I’m faring so far this year

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wheel of lifeThe life coach in me has done quite a bit of reflecting today, given another year is almost done – can you believe it??

I’m reflecting on the various areas of my life and where they’re at right now, and I thought I would share…

Finance 7/10 – I’m doing ok in that department. Not as well as I would like to be, but my bills are paid, and I have access to a little bit of cash in the case of an emergency. As my social life isn’t so great right now, it’s keeping this number at a 7 and not dropping it to a 6! I need to get better at saving.

Personal Growth 8/10 – I’ve grown a LOT this year! I’ve learned to be happy just being me. This is the first time I’ve felt truly happy and single at the same time! Woah! I need to start setting more goals for myself.

Health 8/10 – Apart from my bout of salmonella poisoning, my heath is pretty good. I know I need to be more active to get this to a 10. Maybe that’ll be one of my new year’s resolutions… 😉

Family 7/10 – I am spending more quality time with my babies these days, but I don’t see enough of my siblings or my parents, although I expect to see more of my family over the coming weeks with Christmas around the corner!

Relationships 2/10 – Yup, things in that department are not great, but this time it’s self imposed. I needed a good 6 months on my own, and I’m 2/3 of the way through that and feeling pretty good!

Social Life 3/10 – I need to see my friends more. It’s my fault I don’t see them as often as I’d like, and it’s up to me to fix that. Another new year’s resolution maybe?

Attitude 9/10 – I always see the positives in any situation, even if there is no positive to see. I’m solutions focused too, so I never get bogged down in the problem but try to find the solution instead. I think my attitude is pretty darn good!

Career 8/10 – I love what I’m doing right now, I love the challenges, and I love how my boss just tells me his vision, then lets me go and work out how it will be achieved, then usually agrees with what I’ve come up with. I need to get better at mentoring my staff, and maybe that will be another challenge I can set in the new year? :)

How are you doing in all of these areas of your life? Where can you improve? What are you doing well?

Why have I chosen to promote Younique products?

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IMG 4067I have a career that I love and am finally doing something that not only challenges me, but it is rewarding too. I’m very lucky to have found such an awesome job, and I thank my lucky stars every day!

So why have I decided to promote Younique products in addition to my very busy career?

As you all know, I’m all about women building their confidence and self esteem, and Younique’s mission really resonated with me:

“Younique’s mission is to uplift, empower, validate, and ultimately build self-esteem in women around the world through high-quality products that encourage both inner and outer beauty and spiritual enlightenment while also providing opportunities for personal growth and financial reward.”

Now, I know as well as you do, that beauty is only skin deep, and we should not live our lives trying to look like something that we’re not. That’s a given.

So look at it this way….

When you buy a new outfit that you know looks great on you and flatters your figure, you feel better about yourself, right? Same goes with makeup. You don’t have to pack it on with a spatula – you can apply makeup subtly, but it will give you an internal boost that reflects outwardly too.

Also, as a Younique presenter, I now have an additional stream of income, which of course provides me with more financial security, which again helps to build my confidence in myself and confidence in my ability to succeed.

Another reason why I like Younique is because the products are well priced, and the cost to become a presenter is very small when compared with other companies, so as I loved their mascara (it does amazing things to your eyelashes!), I figured I would like to buy them at a 25%+ discount so I signed up. Now I have friends and family using the products, and of course I use them every day too!

The thing is, when you’re struggling with your confidence and self esteem, that’s a good time to find something that gives your life purpose. What are you working toward? What goals do you have? What makes you feel good about yourself?

Once you find something that gives you purpose and goals, you will find that your outlook on life will improve quite dramatically.

So…. what are you going to do next year to give your life some purpose? What goals do you want to set yourself for next year?

If you are interested in becoming a Younique presenter, click on the link below.

https://www.youniqueproducts.com/Mishy/business/presenterinfo

How to move on after a relationship breakup

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I recently spent a few magical days in Canada, and while I was over there, I received a call from my boyfriend.

He was calling to tell me that he was going back to his ex wife. They had separated last year, and we had known each other for close to a decade. We had been seeing each other for a couple of months, and something had happened over the weekend to bring him to this decision.

My intuition had been telling me something was up, and there it was. Wow.

My reaction was calm (I think I was in shock because things had been so great with us until this point), and he asked me why I wasn’t yelling at him. I wasn’t angry at him though, so why yell? Also, what would yelling achieve?? It would only make me feel worse and it wouldn’t bring him to change his mind, so I really didn’t see the point. I needed time to process this information.

So instead I wished him well and told him that I hoped (for his sake) that they were able to finally work things out, even though that meant I was alone yet again.

So here I am now, back home. I’m in my house alone, when we had planned for him to come and stay a few days, so that’s bringing up some sad and lonely feelings for me.

These feelings are ok, as long as I don’t let them consume me. He is just a guy, there are many more out there, and history proves (for me at least) that every new guy that has come into my life, has been an improvement on the last.

This gives me hope, because my boyfriend was wonderful. He was sweet, funny, affectionate, smart, and so much more. His only “fault”, which is actually an important and positive trait, is his dedication to his children.

But for now, it’s important that I don’t fall into a negative slump. Negative energy attracts more negative events, so it’s important that I turn this into a positive. So how do I do that?

Here are some pointers of what you can to do move on from a relationship breakup:

  • Set a new goal and start planning on how you are going to achieve it – I’ve decided to go back to Canada next year, and I want to learn to ski!
  • Focus on gratitude. Write down 5 things you are grateful for every day.
  • Get out of the house – don’t lock yourself away from the world, even if that’s exactly what you want to do.
  • Take care of yourself. Exercise regularly, eat healthy, make sure you look great when you go out. If you look good, you feel good.
  • Listen to motivational/inspirational audios.
  • If you’re not yet ready to get out there and date again, make plans with friends. Go out to lunch, catch up with your girlfriends for a few drinks after work.
  • Believe that your last relationship was there to show you what you want/don’t want in a man. My guy had so many awesome traits that the guy before him didn’t have. But I could have been happy with either. It seems the Universe has big plans for me, because the right guy is going to be incredible!
  • Be happy alone. Seems impossible when you’re in a funk, but if you can’t be happy on your own, how on earth can anyone else be happy when you’re around? Find ways to cheer yourself up. Focus only on the good in your life. Think up reasons why having a man in your life would be an inconvenience to you. For me it was about liking my own space. A man will reduce my ability to take my space when I want it.
  • KNOW that there is better out there for you. If you don’t believe there is someone out there for you, then you will be right. If you DO believe there’s an awesome man out there for you, then he is on his way!
  • Be patient. Everything comes to you in its own time, and when you are ready.

I could go on all day, but my main point here is that you MUST focus on the positive in order to achieve positive results in any part of your life.

If you’ve recently experienced a breakup, yes it will be painful. You will feel hurt and sad, and you will wonder what the point of the relationship was.

Either way, if you maintain a positive attitude towards life, it won’t be long before the reason for this breakup will become clear – and you’ll be glad it happened! xxx

2015 and beyond – what are your goals?

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New year is approaching and that’s the time when we all reflect on the year that has past and make plans for the future, right?

So…. let’s start a few days early!

I know that it’s common for a new year’s resolution to be dropped over time, so let’s think about what you want to do LONG term. What do you want to achieve in 5-10 years? What can you do next year to move you closer to that goal?

That’s where my thoughts are right now.

I’ve always had this feeling that I was destined for more than the regular 9-5, and after being offered a redundancy at work in July this year, it really opened my eyes up to how unreliable a job really is. It made me realise that if I don’t do something about creating a secondary stream of income soon, what will happen if I am made redundant again in my current job?

I’ve had a lot to think about! And this is the basis of everything I have decided I need to do this coming year. My future is important to me, and I don’t want to hit 60 or 65 and have nothing. I want to have at the very LEAST, a small nest egg and recurring income to sustain me.

I’ve dabbled in many things over the years and while I love the products I’ve been selling, the whole time it takes to work in those businesses was just too much for me – plus they required that I go out every week and do stand up presentations. Whilst I don’t really suffer from stage fright anymore, the last thing I want to do after working a 12 hour day, is to go out again, stand in front of a dozen or so people, tell them how wonderful the product is (and it is), then deal with a bunch of skeptics.

Nah, I’m leaving that for those with thicker skin and more energy!

So… as I posted earlier in the month, I’ve found a skincare and makeup line that suits me perfectly, and selling it has actually been easier than I thought! Why? Because I use it, I tell my friends, I show them the results, and they are like “Wow!”, and they buy. Two have already joined me in this business, they’re so impressed!

Not only is this product easy to sell, but there was something else about the product line that I loved:

  • Their motto: Living the Younique lifestyle is a commitment to uplifting, empowering, and validating women everywhere. It’s devoting yourself to helping a global family of women realize their potential for personal growth and financial reward. This is in line with what I’ve been trying to do on this site – provide women with a way to empower themselves so that they can make better life choices. Awesome!
  • Their products are not tested on animals, are mostly natural, and they’re AMAZING! As a relative of mine said, “Omgsh Michelle those fiber lashes are amazeballs! So beautiful and long & lush! Pls send me info on how to become a rep!”. Yup it was THAT easy! All she had to do was try them and she fell in love.
  • I can do this thing 100% online. No need to go to somebody’s house and do a “party”, no having to get a bunch of people over so I can do a presentation, none of that. All I have to do is get myself on Facebook and post before and after shots of myself and my lovely customers, answer questions (on Facebook) and post the link to my free website, created by the company! I can do this thing in addition to my job without compromising a thing – and my relationship gets to stay intact too! 😉

So… here’s what I plan to do next month based on all of this, as I’ve decided to set myself up some monthly challenges, which will get me towards my main long-term goal:

  • Continue to promote this business and increase sales. This is a relatively new company, so word is only just starting to get out about it. NOW is the time to get started in this, when it’s just taking off. Who knows where it will end up?? :)
  • Have at least one more person join my team, so I achieve the “Fast Start” award. To achieve this I need to earn 2000 in “PRS points” (these are points allocated with every sale – I’ve already achieved this), and have three new presenters join my team. Last night Presenter #2 joined my team, so I have one to go! Woohoo! And I didn’t have to convince anybody – they asked ME about joining. This is important, because it highlights just how awesome the products are!
  • Focus on achieving Pink status. This company sets you up as a “White status” presenter. The next level is Yellow (I have achieved this and have received a pay rise as a result), followed by Pink. So pink is my next goal! Wooooo!

So that’s my January goals!

If you’re interested in generating an additional income from commission on sales or from building a business that becomes full time, check out http://youniqueproducts.com/Mishy/ for more information. Or contact me and I’ll be happy to answer your questions! :)

What causes some relationship problems?

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I’ve been thinking all day about what to write in today’s post, and I have struggled! But a friend of mine paid me a visit today, and she told me a few things about what’s been happening in her marriage.

She’s had relationship issues for many months now, and she’s attended counseling to get to the bottom of what’s going on.

What has really come to light is that a lot of the problems she’s having in her marriage are coming straight from her.

She realised this morning just how unsexy she feels, and she’s been saying to me for months that she just feels fat. This has nothing to do with him – this is totally her issue, and totally her choice that she stopped working out regularly, and eating properly.

This has spilled over into her relationship. Because she doesn’t feel sexy, she isn’t open to her husband’s advances, and he in turn feels rejected and gets upset with her, and the cycle continues.

So what can she do to fix this? I have a few ideas…

  1. Set a goal – not to lose weight, but another goal that requires her to lose weight. She has decided to get a family member to do a photoshoot next year. She will want to be looking HOT by then!
  2. Write down what she needs to do – how many times a week will she work out? What will she eat every day? She needs to ensure she’s doing things that will help her achieve her goal.
  3. Stop beating herself up – she’s where she is, due to her choices. But she has the power to change it. So while beating herself up about past mistakes may feel gratifying in some way, it achieves nothing.
  4. Get the support of her husband and friends. The more people you tell about your goal, the more likely you’ll stick with it.
  5. She needs to keep her eye on the prize! Do at least one thing every single day, to get her closer to her goal.

What often happens in a relationship is that we blame our partner for what turns out to be our own issues. But the reality is that many relationship issues come from within. xxx

What’s stopping you from living your dreams?

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One of my biggest goals in life has been to travel more, to see the beautiful world we live in….

But like most people, I’ve never had the time nor the money to do so – I’ve not even had enough time or money to see my own country! Until recently, that is…

Last week, I went on a little adventure with my eldest daughter. She’s 16 and I know that all too soon, she will be spreading her wings and flying from the nest, so I knew I needed to do this with her sooner rather than later.IMG 8908

So as I am now representing a Travel Club that offers discounted holidays, I figured it was time to book us in for a little break IMG 8859together. I found the perfect holiday for us, and booked us in!

We traveled to Cairns, in far north Queensland for 3 glorious sun-filled days, and had a blast!

Not only that, but we saved several hundred dollars on our trip – more than I expected!IMG 8933

We were taken on a tour of the Daintree Forest and Cape Tribulation, and had the opportunity to see some beautiful parts of the country, including a float down the croc-infested Daintree River, I kissed a crocodile (a baby!), and we ate like we’ve never eaten before!

We were also lucky to see some gorgeous sunsets, and we made some new friends too!

So what’s stopping you living your dreams? Is it money? Is it time? Or is it both?

There IS a way to get the time and the money you need, but of course you need a vehicle. I have found something that I can work on part time while I work on other things, plus I have the added benefit of discounted flights and holidays.

If you would like to know more about this opportunity, please contact me.

Having trouble staying focused on your biggest goal? Try this!

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reminderAre you having trouble staying focused on your goals? You know you should stay focused, and you know that by staying focused, you increase your chances of achieving them…. But life gets in the way…

I do the same. I have a goal, I’m really excited about it, then life happens and my goal slips into the back of my mind, only retrieved when I consciously bring it back into focus.

So… here’s what I came up with (thanks to a close friend of mine) as an idea to keep a constant reminder of my goals, right in my face, so I’m less likely to lose focus.

I bought myself a ring.

This ring is constantly in front of my face, and is therefore a constant reminder to stay focused on my goals. Every time I see or become conscious of the ring on my finger, I run my goal through my mind.

I want to become obsessed with my goal! I want it to seep into every cell of my being! I want to achieve this goal more than anything in the world! And I certainly don’t want to let life get in the way!

There are also other things you can do, such as sticking sticky notes on your bathroom mirror and in your car, placing little reminders in your purse, setting reminders in your phone.

What kinds of things can you come up with to keep you focused on your goals?

What are your goals for 2014?

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Happy new year everyone! I’ve been a bit out of whack with my posts lately but hope to get myself into a better routine in 2014.

So… who has started writing down their goals for 2014?

If you haven’t, you’re like me – and you need to start!

A good friend of mine who happens to be VERY successful, recently posted this on Facebook:

“Write your goals on paper, see them and smell them 24/7. Only when you do this will you be able to internalise them, make imprints of them on a cellular level and manifest them…”

Ok, so here’s briefly what we all have to do (because I’m yet to write mine down)…

  1. Get yourself a small card/piece of paper/notebook.
  2. In present tense, write down your goal… “I am so happy and grateful now that…..” and put a date on it, in the future.
  3. Look at that written goal every single day, several times a day.
  4. Say your goal in your mind, imagine how it would feel once you’ve achieved it.
  5. Be patient! Some things take a while to manifest!

So go find something to write on and get started! :)

Counting down to the end of 2013

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Hi everyone! I didn’t post a Merry Christmas post this year because;

a) I’m the worst blogger ever; and
b) I’ve used the last week or so to just have some “me” time and be with my kids.

I’m not religious, but I love Christmas, as it’s a time to take a break from work and spend quality time with family. I was lucky enough to get two weeks off work this year, and I’m making the most of the time, let me tell you!

As 2013 draws to a close, I’ve also been reflecting on what has been an incredible year. So much has happened, so many changes, and I’ve grown personally too. It’s definitely been a turning point in my life, and I have a very good feeling that 2014 is going to bring about some exciting times!

Today I’ve started looking into ways to get in shape. I’m going to be following the Fit Yummy Mummy “Little black dress” program. I’ve really been quite slack with my workouts and eating lately, and it’s time to get back on track!

Thankfully I’ve never really struggled with my weight, but looking AND feeling great is important to me. So a change to what I eat on a daily basis and an increase in physical activities it is!

So 2014 is going to kick off with a better looking/feeling me, I’m going to focus more on my business activities, therefore improving my financial situation, and as for my love life, well… it could be better, but I think I’m on the right track!

How is your 2014 looking? :)