Tips for Improving Your Self Confidence - Part 3 of 8
April 13, 2008
Once all negative influences are removed from your life, take a good look at your negative thoughts - Are you your own worst enemy? If you have low confidence or self esteem, then I bet the answer is “yes”! If this is the case, then now is the time to stop. Whenever you start thinking of negative thoughts, start to think of something good and positive. Even something unrelated.
Tips for Improving Your Self Confidence - Part 2 of 8
April 12, 2008
If you’re in an abusive relationship, do something about it - whether the abuse is physical, verbal or emotional, it all does the same to your state of mind. It is NEVER ok to abuse someone, no matter what. If you are the victim of abuse, you either need to get out of the relationship now, or seek professional help yesterday!
Tips for Improving Your Self Confidence - Part 1 of 8
April 11, 2008
Improving your self-confidence can be complicated and while it may be possible to become more confident with a few small changes in your thinking, in many cases you’re going to have to make some drastic life changes to achieve greater confidence.
Here’s your first tip:
1. Remove all the negative influences from your life - how can you feel good about yourself and your positive attributes if someone is constantly putting you down or making fun of you or the things you do?
Speak up
April 1, 2008
Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion.
Start doing this in small groups and build it up until eventually you find yourself in front of a large auditorium full of strangers, while you present at a seminar… (whoops - I’m talking about me!)…
Ok, some may still fear public speaking, but others (like me) while still living with this fear, may be ok presenting a training session in front of a large group with no problems whatsoever.
Be grateful
March 31, 2008
Gratitude is by far one of the best ways to attract more good into your life.
Look at all of the good things in your life. Before long, the bad things will start to pale in comparison.
Appreciate the good in others
March 30, 2008
Compliment others (don’t go over the top!). Acknowledge others for what they have done for you or for others. Show them you appreciate them. Show an interest in them. People love that!
Pick up your pace
March 29, 2008
People with confidence walk quickly. Fake it until you make it! Not only will walking faster make you look more confident, but if you walk fast enough, you might get a bit of a workout too! 
How to improve your self confidence
March 28, 2008
I came across some tips on how to improve your self confidence today, so I figured I would pass them on to my loyal website visitors over a series of posts, so visit each day to make sure you don’t miss any! Of course you can just look at older posts and there they are, but hey - I’m trying to help you out here!
Number 1
Dress well. Not only will you look better, but for some strange reason you will start to feel better too.
When you don’t look good, you know it, and this comes across in how you interact with others.
You don’t have to spend a fortune either. Mix and match - that’s the best way to keep your finances under control!
Illegal drugs - why do people take them?
March 26, 2008
I personally believe a person’s self esteem will determine their likelihood of turning to illegal drugs.
Would someone who thought highly about themself turn to drugs, which can not only be harmful, but can be deadly too? I think not!
This is yet another reason why parents should do whatever they can to keep their children’s self esteem is as high as it can possibly be, so they will want to say no if and when they are ever offered drugs, carrying them into a drug-free adulthood.
It is my hope that my children will know the importance of saying no to such a mindless act as taking illegal drugs, because they have the level of confidence and self esteem required to know they are doing the right thing and will not be swayed by self esteem.
What do others think about this?
How can you tell if your child lacks confidence?
March 24, 2008
Hmmm. This one I ponder because I have two daughters, aged 10 and 1. Whilst it’ll be a while before I have too much to worry about with my younger daughter, I am compelled to ensure my older daughter doesn’t go down the road that I did.
So how can a parent tell if their child lacks self confidence? I have no idea!
I suppose it might be a case of watching how they interact with others, how they go at school, and the types of friends they have. She is only 10, so the “bad” years are yet to come - hopefully her self esteem will be high enough then so she doesn’t make the bad choices I did!
So how does a parent help build a child’s self esteem?
I think there are a few things you can do:
- Praise them for doing well
- Never, EVER put them down
- Always offer encouragement
- Allow them to do things for themselves (as they get older, allow them to make their own lunch, if they want to cook you dinner, let them, and make sure it’s age-appropriate)
- Punish them for doing the wrong thing where appropriate (we usually ban her from using the computer for a week, or we might take something else away)
- Don’t go over the top with punishment or praise that matter. You need to keep it at a good balance.
- Tell you love them and appreciate them - Often!
A child that knows they are loved and appreciated will always have more confidence than a child who experiences no love or appreciation in the home.