Let’s face it. There will be days when you’re feeling bad, you’re mentally beating yourself up and you feel like you’re worthless, useless, not worth anybody’s time…

But on some conscious level you KNOW you’re better than this. You know you deserve a happier and better life. But you just can’t dig yourself out of this pit of despair.

So today’s post is about helping you to feel just a little bit better about yourself.

I’m not sure if I’ve said it here on the blog before, but if you’re told a lie often enough, soon you’ll start to believe it. So let’s start off today by telling yourself some nice “lies”!

So here’s something you can try:

• Write down at least five things you like about yourself. They could be personality traits (you’re a good person, you’re kind to others, you have a great sense of humour, you’re smart, etc) which are preferred, or they could be physical attributes, such as you have nice hair, nice eyes, you’re pretty, you have a nice figure, etc.
• Review this list EVERY day. Stick it by your bed or on your bathroom mirror. Put it somewhere so you see it first thing every day.
• As you read this list every day, even if you don’t believe it right now, pretend that everything on that list is 100% true.
• Add things to your list as you think of them.

This little task will go a long way towards helping to lift your spirits and allowing you to like yourself just a little bit more! xx

One of the better books I’ve read over the years, and one that provides you with tools and ideas on how to get out there and try something new in your life, is Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, by Susan Jeffers.

If you’ve not read this book, then I strongly suggest you get a copy.

Amazon have copies for sale too….

This song says it all and I really relate to it – listen to the words!

It’s been around for a while this song, but I never really took notice of the lyrics, until after I’d attended a public speaking meetup where we had to talk for two minutes about what we were passionate about.

Of course I talked about my passion to help people talk about their self confidence and self esteem, and while I was on my way home that night, this song started playing on the radio.  I rarely listen to the radio as I have my car stereo hooked up to my iPod.  So on this night this song came on and for some reason I decided to really listen to what she was saying in this song.

Wow!

What you say to yourself can sometimes be more damaging than what others say to you.

How often do you berate yourself for doing something wrong or making a mistake? How harsh are you?

For the most part, we are more harsh on ourselves than others are of us, and it is until we become conscious of the fact that we are doing this, that we can finally take control of it.

We all make mistakes and we all do things we may regret later, but these things are all part of learning. As long as you learn from your past mistakes, you can move on and make different choices next time.

The following steps will give you some idea of what you can try the next time you notice you’re talking negatively to yourself:

• First, be aware of what you say to yourself and why you are saying it.
• Instead of telling yourself that you were stupid for doing something wrong, reword it in your mind to be more like “Ok, that wasn’t the right thing to do. Next time I will do it like…whatever”.
• Compliment yourself when you do something well! Give yourself a mental pat on the back when you succeed!
• Reward yourself for your accomplishments! You don’t have to go all out – just do something nice for yourself!
• You MUST believe you deserve to be treated well, because if you begin to believe it, then your self talk will change. Change that and you will start to see people treating you differently (nice differently! ) and that makes you feel even better about yourself.

When you change how you speak to yourself and how you perceive yourself, the outside world changes dramatically. All of a sudden you see things differently and in a more positive light. More opportunities come your way, a different breed of people start to cross your path and things just seem to go right all of a sudden.

Try this over the next month and see what a difference it really can make to your entire life!

I had an interesting Facebook (FB) experience last night and this morning.

A male FB friend had asked the question why so many women are attracted to men who treat them badly.

I responded that many women have such a low self worth that they put up with such treatment. A woman with high self worth would never accept this kind of treatment ever!

Anyway, within a few minutes I was “attacked” by a woman who suggested I was putting all women into a box, stating I had “gr8 intellect”, etc etc etc.

She also went on to tell the world how she was seeing a criminal with several convictions against him, whilst telling me she had a high self worth.

Did she really? Why did she feel the need to “attack” me and insult my intelligence?

We all attract people into our lives that reflect our subconscious thoughts.

If she truly felt she was worthy of having quality people in her life, then she would never have had a relationship with this guy. She attracted him, but takes no responsibility for the fact that she attracted him.

I was once like this girl. My entire circumstances were the fault of someone else and not me.

It was when I finally realised that my entire future was in my hands (or even in my subconscious mind) that I was finally able to start living the life I always wanted.

Just so you know, I don’t feel insulted or hurt at all by what this woman – I feel sorry for her. Many would have felt tempted to attack back, but what would I have achieved by doing so?

I hope that one day she will think about what I wrote and finally realise that only she has the power to rid those “bad” types from her life…