Have you ever noticed when you’re feeling down, that more negative things seem to happen to you over and over again?  Why is that?

What I have learned over many years now is that you attract what you’re thinking about.  So if you’re thinking negatively, then negative things will continue to happen.

Even though I’m mostly a positive person, I do sometimes fall into the “negative mindset trap”, and I know I need to snap out of it as soon as I can!

So how can you snap out of a negative mindset?

Well, firstly you must understand that it’s difficult to change your mindset instantly, but there are some things you can do to create a more positive mindset, and here they are!

1. Don’t buy in to your negative feelings.  Yep, sometimes it feels “good” to dwell on all of the terrible things going on in your life right now, and you may kind of enjoy feeling sorry for yourself.  But this needs to stop.
2. Although you can’t make bad feelings go away, you CAN replace your bad feelings with good feelings!
3. Get out your gratitude journal and write down all of the things you are grateful for right now – big or small!
4. If you have a coach, give them a call or send them an email asking for help to snap out of this mindset.
5. Do something fun!  Something you love to do!
6. Go for a walk or a run – exercise is great for a happy, healthy mind!
7. Sit down and go through your list of goals.  Begin to write action steps about what you can to do move you closer to your goals, starting right now.  This takes the focus off what you don’t want and puts it back on what you do want.
8. Hang out with positive friends.
9. Pamper yourself.  Paint your toenails, have a long relaxing bath, go and get a massage.  Sometimes we feel down because we’re not loving ourselves.  Pampering is a great way to shower yourself with love!  ;)
10. Listen to inspiring audios, over and over again – until your conscious mind gets it!

Further to point 10, I was having a bit of a hard time a couple of weeks ago, and I really did feel that the world was against me.  Now I knew things felt bad because I was in a negative mindset, and I knew I had to snap out of it quick, if I wanted to start feeling better!

So I grabbed my copy of The Power, and I listened to it over and over again, for 3 days straight!

Before the end of the first day I was feeling happier and I began to feel inspired again!  My outlook on life improved, and eventually, the negative mindset had disappeared!

So listening to audios works beautifully for me, although one of the other ideas on the list may work for you.  If one doesn’t work, try another until you find one that works for you.

To get your copy of  The Power Audio CD, click HERE.

How often have you berated yourself for doing or saying something wrong? How often have you said “It will never work” or “It’s no use” or “Why do I bother?”…?

I know I’m guilty of it, and I’m yet to meet anybody who has not done this on occasion.

But what is negative self talk really doing to you?  Can it really be affecting the results you’re getting in life?

You bet it is!

Negative self talk is what happens before you find yourself in the “pit of despair”, or those times in your life where you just feel down, so you should consider this type of talk as a red flag.

So why is negative self talk a red flag?

Negative self talk is a red flag because it shows you very clearly where you’re headed.  If you let this self talk continue, you’re starting on a downward spiral until you find yourself feeling just plain “yuck”.

And what damage does this cause?  Well, if you do enough of this, you could find yourself slipping into depression!  If not that serious, it really can affect the results you’re getting in life.  Negative self talk is damaging and does you no good whatsoever!

So what can you do about it?

Well, the first thing you can do is to identify it as it happens.  As soon as you find yourself thinking negatively, stop yourself and see it for what it is – a red flag!

Next, turn these thoughts around, and here’s a few ways in which you can do this:

• If you’re saying something like “I’ll never be able to do that…”, ask yourself why not? Why can’t you do that?  What makes you so special?  Why can somebody else do it?  What’s stopping you being able to do that?
• What if you’re calling yourself every name under the sun?  Turn this around by accepting that you may have made a mistake and that you’re not the very first person in the world to do so, and what gives you the right to say these things?  If your best friend made the same mistake, would you call them all these names?  You’re HUMAN and you are allowed to make mistakes!  So think about what you can learn from what you’ve done – make the mistake worth it!
• Did you recently have a relationship end, or is your relationship on the rocks?  Now is the time to focus on YOU!  You deserve to be loved and cherished, no matter what.  If you made mistakes, learn from them and become a better and more understanding person.  If your partner cannot love you for who you are (mistakes and all), then do they really deserve you?  If you were recently dumped, then all you have lost is somebody who didn’t want you there in the first place.  That’s kind of like “losing” a serious disease! You don’t need disease do you?  You don’t need a relationship with somebody who doesn’t want to be with you either!

These are just a few examples of how you can turn this negative self talk around.

Do what you can to focus on the positive aspects of every sitaution.  Stop when you find your mind doing the negative self talk thing, and turn it into something positive.

Make the choice to look at the bright side of life – it’s a great place to be!

Want to know how to maintain a positive attitude?  Many people seem to be able to do this effortlessly while others just can’t seem to keep that positive attitude going for more than a few days at best.

I remember attending events in the past which had me pumped for days, then my enthusiasm would begin to fade, or something would go wrong, and next minute I was back to where I was before the event.  I always wondered how people were able to maintain their undying passion for life for long periods of time, and today I’m going to share with you one of the secrets because now I know many of these secrets!

One of these secrets is about focusing on the positives of events in your everyday life.  Each and every day you will find yourself in situations where you will be faced with challenges.  What most people tend to do is focus on the challenge.

Positive people are more inclined to focus on a possible solution or the positives of this challenge instead.

But what if staying focused on the positives doesn’t come naturally to you?

Well there IS a way…!

Maintaining a positive attitude if it’s not something you normally do, will require a little bit of effort and it’s worth setting daily reminders so that the tool I am about to give you can be most effective.

So here’s what you can do to help you to maintain a positive attitude:

Each and every day, from the minute you get up until the minute your head touches the pillow every night, make a conscious effort to focus on the positives of everything you experience.

Buy yourself a small notebook and carry it with you.  Whenever you experience something positive, write it down.

Also, whenever you encounter a negative event, think about the positives of that event.  For example, let’s say you’re in a situation like I am right now where your house is taking FOREVER to sell.  The positives for me are that it is extremely hot here in Australia right now and this house has a pool, so if my house had sold before now, I wouldn’t have had the relaxing afternoon in the pool today!  My future house will unfortunately not have a pool, so this is a huge positive, based on the fact that we’re melting down here!!  :)

That’s just one example of a positive spin you can put on what would normally be perceived to be a bad situation, and sometimes you will need to be a bit creative, but with practise, ideas will begin to come to you easily.

Go and grab your notebook and start taking notice of the good things in life today!

Is there sonmething you always wanted to do but never got around to doing?

Learning a new skill will bring about a sense of achievement, and will boost your confidence too.

Depending on what you would like to learn, you can either sign up for a class, or you could purchase a book on the topic and learn that way.

It doesn’t matter how simple or difficult the skill may be – once you’ve mastered the skill you will feel a little bit better about yourself!