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Can’t afford a weight loss program? Here’s your perfect solution!

March 7, 2012 By Michelle Green 1 Comment

I am probably one of those people that many others hate who has never really struggled with my weight.

In fact, even while pregnant, my weight never went above the ideal weight for somebody of my height who wasn’t even pregnant!

I have maintained my figure for many reasons, including the fact that while I don’t always eat the best foods for me, my portion sizes are on the smaller size. I never upsize – EVER.

Also, I’m quite active (even when not following specific workout routines), so my level of activity combined with my eating habits allows me to maintain my weight.

But I do get a bit “soft” and floppy sometimes, and that’s when I decide it’s time to partake in a workout program to tone the little bit of excess flab I have.

I have tried many programs and when I apply myself, they all work great. But I do get bored after a while – I need variety from the same old thing every week.

So when a friend of mine posted something on Facebook about a program she was following, I was curious! So I took a look and liked what I saw.

Now, beware that some of the pictures on this site and even some of the video titles are a little “sexual”, but the program itself is tough and from what I’ve read, it works too. And best of all, it’s FREE!

So pop on over to http://www.bodyrock.tv and take a look for yourself.

You will notice that during her workouts she uses an Interval timer. You can get one of those HERE.

What do you think? Are you up to the challenge?? If cost was your excuse before, then you no longer have an excuse!

Filed Under: Weight Loss

Calling all WISE Women!

March 7, 2012 By Michelle Green Leave a Comment

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Filed Under: Career and Business, Personal Development

What to do if you ever feel like you’re not good enough

February 28, 2012 By Michelle Green 2 Comments

If you’ve ever felt like you’re good enough it’s because of stories you’ve told yourself, or things other people have said to you in the past – and you believed those things.

I had a great family life as a child. I have two brothers and a sister who I love dearly, my parents were supportive and loving, but I somehow ended up with very low self esteem and feeling as though I just couldn’t measure up.

Where did this come from??

Some of it came from school. Kids are cruel sometimes, and unfortunately I wasn’t equipped to handle this, and I took everything they said to me, to heart. I began to believe their words, and I internalised them, and they became a part of who I was.

Fast forward a few years and I found myself married to a verbally abusive and controlling man. Ick! I cringe now at the thought of ending up with somebody like that, because I wouldn’t wish it on anybody!

So many times I considered taking my own life, just so I could be away from all of this pain!

So why didn’t I just leave him?

Because I really didn’t think I was good enough. I wasn’t good enough to find somebody better, I wasn’t good enough to get out there on my own, I wasn’t good enough to have a better life.

So I kept telling myself these negative stories, but a little voice inside me kept speaking up and telling me that I deserved so much better, and to look at my good points, and to focus more on those!

It took a long time, but I eventually broke out of that negative pattern and began to believe that yes, I was in fact good enough and I did deserve better!

I was lucky in that my parents had begun to drum this stuff into my head several years earlier, but not everybody has parents as clever as mine!

So what can you do if you feel like you’re not good enough?

Try these things and see if they help:

Grab a notebook and write down 5 things you like about yourself. These can be physical or something related to your wonderful personality! Add to this list every day if you can!
Refer back to this list throughout your day – stick them where you will see them regularly.
Take extra care when you get ready for your day. Apply makeup, do your hair, dress in a way that makes you feel good about yourself.
Choose a day this coming week where you will pretend that you ARE in fact good enough, for the entire day, and on this day, take note of every little thing that happens differently.
Smile! If you smile, you can’t help but feel a little better about yourself, even if it’s a teeny smile!

Every little positive thing you do for yourself will make a difference. As you “teach” yourself to act more positively, you will attract more positive events into your life.

Try this for a month and see what a difference it makes!

Filed Under: Personal Development, Self Confidence

Achieving success begins with believing it’s coming

January 28, 2012 By Michelle Green Leave a Comment

For as long as I can remember, I have known I was destined for bigger things. I remember the night when I came to the realisation that my whole purpose in life was to help others. I had no idea back then how I would be providing this help, but I knew with all my heart that some day I was going to help people to make thier lives better.

Thinking back to that time, I was in a verbally abusive relationship with the man who would eventually become my first husband, our financial situation was dismal at best, and I was nowhere near achieving success in my own life.

But I knew it was coming, even though I didn’t know how.

Fast forward to almost 20 years later and I am a certified life coach, I have clients all over the world, I am successful in a career sense (my “real” job), making more money than I thought I would be at this stage of my life, I have skills and knowlege that can make me several hundred dollars (if not more) in any given month if I want to, and I still know there’s so much more to come!

And while I continue to have this belief, I know it will keep on coming!

But what if I’d not been so sure of my future? What if I didn’t beleive I was destined for more? Do you think I would have achieved what I have so far in my life? I’m thinking not!

I’ve had my ups and downs over the years. I have had two marriages end, been involved in a rocky relationship since, and have felt very lost at times. But I never stopped believing that something bigger was coming.

Do you believe there’s more for you out there?

Filed Under: Personal Development, Self Confidence

Happy 2012!!!

December 31, 2011 By Michelle Green Leave a Comment

Hi everybody! With only 5 hours of 2011 left, I am yet to decide on my new year’s resolutions (where did that time go???), but I do plan to sit down tomorrow and write out my intentions for 2012.

I reflect back on the last year and I realise that I have grown (mentally, not physically!) a LOT! I have learned so much and my life looks nothing like it did 12 months ago. Thank goodness!

2012 is already shaping up to be an amazing year and I can’t wait!

What are your intentions for 2012? If you haven’t done so already, write them down. And once you’ve written them down, write out the steps you will take to achieve what you want to achieve!

Next stick it somewhere so you can see it every single day! Daily reminders come in very handy!

I’m off now to begin my celebrations, so I would like to take this opportunity to wish you a happy and safe new year and I’ll be back soon!!

Filed Under: Self Confidence

What are you feeding your mind?

December 20, 2011 By Michelle Green 1 Comment

Today I came across a book in a department store, called “Flood Horror & Tragedy” which portrayed several stories and photos of the events which surrounded the floods here in Queensland Australia where I live, in January 2011.

My first impression of this book when I saw the cover, was HUH??? Here we are, supposedly spreading Christmas cheer, and a book like this is supposed to do that?? I think NOT!

Now I must start off by acknowledging the fact that 100% of the publisher’s profits will be donated to various charities, which of course is a good thing.

Another positive, is that according to the book’s website, it contains stories of courage and the will to survive. That’s great!

So why the awful title? Why is the focus on the horror and not on the beauty of human nature???

Unfortunately, it’s often human nature to choose a book titled “Flood Horror & Tragedy” over something like “Amazing courage” or “The Will to Survive”, which I find very disturbing and sad. Why isn’t there more focus in this world on the GOOD things???

It’s because of the title of this book that I refuse to buy it – I don’t want something that portrays such negativity sitting on my bookshelf. Every time I look at it and read the title, I’m feeding myself negative words! Give me something uplifting and positive any day!

What are you feeding your mind on a daily basis? Positive things or negative things??

Filed Under: Personal Development

How to change your focus to something positive

December 13, 2011 By Michelle Green 2 Comments

I don’t know about you but sometimes I find myself dwelling on a negative aspect of my life, but no matter how bad it feels, I sometimes find that I hang on to those negative feelings, kind of like I don’t want to let them go.

The reason we tend to do this is because we are getting something out of it! We could be receiving sympathy or attention for the negatives in our life, or it could be just that we’re so used to the negative feelings that we feel “safer” with them than without.

You may not even know why you are clinging to these feelings too. It could all be happening on a subconscious level.

But let me tell you from somebody who’s queen of hanging on to stuff, that life is better – in fact, ALL aspects of your life are better – if you let go of the negative stuff and change your focus on to something positive!

Now here’s the challenge. Sometimes it’s not easy to change your focus when you’re sooooo invested in the negative feelings. So today I’m going to give you a tool to help you to move that focus on to something that will better serve you.

So here goes!

Alright! I want you to imagine a butterfly. Your butterfly can be any colour at all, but it must be a colour that makes you feel good. This site is full of butterflies, and they’re all pink I believe. That’s the colour of mine, but you might prefer yellow or blue or purple.
Next, imagine that you have your negative feelings all balled up next to you. You can see this ball is cold and grey and it doesn’t look inviting or nice at all.
In the distance, think of something or someone that makes your heart sing. It could be your children or other close family members, it could be you living your life purpose, or it could just be the thought of you sitting on a warm tropical island, sipping pina coladas!
Imagine your butterfly is flying away from the negative feelings, and fluttering towards your positive things. Follow your butterfly in your mind.
As your butterfly flutters around whatever it is you’re imagining, imagine the feelings you feel when you’re around your love ones, while living your life’s purpose or sitting on that island. Really feel those feelings!

Ok! Now how do you feel?? Better? Even a teeny bit better??

If you’re feeling exceptionally bad, you may need to do this exercise several times a day. When you go to the bathroom that would be a perfect time to really use this tool – no point wasting that time on idle thoughts, right?

Haha! It doesn’t really matter where you are, and you really can run through the five steps above really quickly if you need to. The key here is to acknowledge your bad feelings, then turn your back on them and “walk” towards your positive feelings.

I’d love to hear how you go with this exercise!

Filed Under: Personal Development, Tools

How to stop feeling so down on myself

December 11, 2011 By Michelle Green Leave a Comment

Let’s face it. There will be days when you’re feeling bad, you’re mentally beating yourself up and you feel like you’re worthless, useless, not worth anybody’s time…

But on some conscious level you KNOW you’re better than this. You know you deserve a happier and better life. But you just can’t dig yourself out of this pit of despair.

So today’s post is about helping you to feel just a little bit better about yourself.

I’m not sure if I’ve said it here on the blog before, but if you’re told a lie often enough, soon you’ll start to believe it. So let’s start off today by telling yourself some nice “lies”!

So here’s something you can try:

Write down at least five things you like about yourself. They could be personality traits (you’re a good person, you’re kind to others, you have a great sense of humour, you’re smart, etc) which are preferred, or they could be physical attributes, such as you have nice hair, nice eyes, you’re pretty, you have a nice figure, etc.
Review this list EVERY day. Stick it by your bed or on your bathroom mirror. Put it somewhere so you see it first thing every day.
As you read this list every day, even if you don’t believe it right now, pretend that everything on that list is 100% true.
Add things to your list as you think of them.

This little task will go a long way towards helping to lift your spirits and allowing you to like yourself just a little bit more! xx

Filed Under: Personal Development, Self Confidence, Self Esteem

What is your purpose in life?

October 17, 2011 By Michelle Green Leave a Comment

What is your purpose in life? What were you put here to do? What are you unbelievably passionate about?

These are questions I’ve asked myself a gazillion times over the years, and I am happy to say that I now (finally!) have the answer!

Knowing your purpose or identifying your passion isn’t always something that comes easy to many people. I know I searched for my purpose in life for a very long time before I finally worked out exactly what it was and what it meant to me.

So once you’ve worked out what your passion or purpose in life is, then what? And why is it so important???

From now on I’ll use “purpose” as my reference to both purpose and passion because I really do think they are very similar or the same in many aspects.

Ok…. when you live without a purpose, you are literally heading nowhere. You’re just living day to day with no clear direction, and I can bet that you’re not feeling too great about yourself either, right? You probably feel lost, wondering why you’re here and why you even bother sometimes.

If you’re in a relationship, it’s likely that without a purpose, you’re totally focused on your man – not on yourself and what you want to do in life, because you really don’t know what you want to do! Without your own purpose, it’s very difficult to have your own interests outside of your relationships too – this is not healthy!

On the other hand, having a purpose gives you the following benefits:

Your life has a clear direction
You have a great reason for getting out of bed every day!
You feel fulfilled and happy because you’re doing what you know you were put on the planet to do!
Your relationships improve because you’re not solely focused on your partner.
Finding the motivation to achieve your goals isn’t difficult when they’re in line with your purpose.
You feel a great sense of satisfaction when your life is congruent to your values and purpose.

These are just some of the many benefits of identifying and living in line with your purpose, and I can assure you that once you’ve identified what your purpose is, you’re going to completely change your perspective on life! In fact, I guarantee it!

Ok, so it’s all well and good to know that identifying your purpose is a great thing, but what if you’re like I was, and you don’t have a CLUE what that is?

I recently read a book which specifically outlines, step by step, how to identify your passions so you can live your life by them, and I can’t recommend this book enough (see below for link). I had the pleasure of meeting one of the Authors recently, and she is the perfect example of somebody who’s truly living their purpose! She’s just so… HAPPY!

So take a look at this book – I definitely recommend it to anybody who’s struggling to identify their true passions in life.

Filed Under: Self Confidence, Setting Goals