Domestic Violence - Horrible Stuff

I have a friend who contributes regularly to a website for women in business and that is how I came across the story I am going to talk about today.

Other contributors to this site talk about anything from fashion, to weight loss, to business (amongst many other things), and today I came across a story about domestic violence where the author (Rachel Kayrooz) talked about how she finally escaped her domestic violence situation.

What is unfortunate for Rachel, is that she had to almost lose her unborn child first.   This story brought tears to my eyes.  I am the mother of two beautiful daughters, and can’t imagine what it would have been like to wonder if my child was going to live or die - before they were even born!   If you’re living in a domestic violence situation, then you need to read her story NOW.

If you’re in a similar situation and can’t do something about it for yourself, then you MUST protect your children and do something for them!!  You might save their life in the process…

Check out her story at http://www.babesinbusiness.com/bib/prod/content/gui_bib_may08_shout.cfm

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Why won’t she leave him??

Have you ever wondered why women suffering from verbal or physical abuse stay with their abusive partners?

I can’t speak for all women who put up with such treatment, but I can speak for myself.

If you’ve not read my previous posts, then you may not realise that I was verbally and emotionally abused for around 9 years by my former husband.

It wasn’t constant, but it was enough to push my self esteem so low that at times I wondered if I would be better off dead.

So why did I stay?

There were a number of reasons (and yes, if you’ve never been in a similar situation you may wonder about my intelligence here!) which I will cover now:

1. I felt I had nowhere to go (despite the fact that my parents lived nearby and would have been there for me no matter what).

2. I didn’t want to admit I had "failed" to myself or others.

3. Financial reasons - if I left, then there would be a huge financial mess to clean up.

4. I was afraid of the unknown - my self esteem was so low that I really wasn’t sure I would be up to surviving on my own (what the..?).

5. I didn’t think I would cope as a single mother.

There were plenty of other "excuses", but as you can see, the reasons above were either not justified or they were just plain lame.

Looking back I know these excuses were lame but at the time, they were very valid and a strong reason to stay.

Another thing our marriage counselor said to me was that because the abuse I suffered wasn’t physical, I felt I didn’t have a tangible reason to leave. I suppose if he had hit me (several times I tried to get him to!), I would’ve been out that door in an instant! (I hope!)

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