Archives for December 2015

Should I get professional photos taken for my online dating profile?

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This post is for those ladies thinking of having professional pics taken for their dating profile.

My best advice about this is DON’T DO IT!!!

I’ve dated a few men, and my conversation with them and my latest guy yesterday was very telling about what happens from their perspective.

Bottom line is this:

Guys are visual, so they will often initiate contact with a woman who is visually appealing to them. Once contact has been established and it’s time to meet, they’re expecting to meet up with somebody who looks somewhat like their profile pic. Our expectation is the same, right?

So let’s say you got yourself all done up and had a bunch of professional pics taken (and let’s face it – if done right, they can make you look way more amazing than you think you look in real life), and use those pics for your profile. You may look pretty cute normally, but Photoshop and good lighting really served you when those pics were taken! 😉

Ok so now it’s time to meet up, and he’s expecting to meet what he perceives to be a supermodel, in the flesh. And then you turn up. You’re cute, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you, but you don’t normally get around town looking like a supermodel, right? Who does???? Except super models maybe…

So what you’ve effectively done is deceived him by advertising yourself as somebody who only has a slight resemblance to you. How is that fair?

Imagine if some guy had done the same thing. His pics were HAWT, but when you meet in person, you’re severely let down as he looks nothing like his pics!

Same goes for the age of your photos. Make sure they’re recent and represent how you look NOW, and not 5 years ago! If a guy doesn’t want to talk to you based on what he sees, then he’s not worth your time and has effectively weeded himself out with zero effort from you!

The Wheel of Life – How I’m faring so far this year

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wheel of lifeThe life coach in me has done quite a bit of reflecting today, given another year is almost done – can you believe it??

I’m reflecting on the various areas of my life and where they’re at right now, and I thought I would share…

Finance 7/10 – I’m doing ok in that department. Not as well as I would like to be, but my bills are paid, and I have access to a little bit of cash in the case of an emergency. As my social life isn’t so great right now, it’s keeping this number at a 7 and not dropping it to a 6! I need to get better at saving.

Personal Growth 8/10 – I’ve grown a LOT this year! I’ve learned to be happy just being me. This is the first time I’ve felt truly happy and single at the same time! Woah! I need to start setting more goals for myself.

Health 8/10 – Apart from my bout of salmonella poisoning, my heath is pretty good. I know I need to be more active to get this to a 10. Maybe that’ll be one of my new year’s resolutions… 😉

Family 7/10 – I am spending more quality time with my babies these days, but I don’t see enough of my siblings or my parents, although I expect to see more of my family over the coming weeks with Christmas around the corner!

Relationships 2/10 – Yup, things in that department are not great, but this time it’s self imposed. I needed a good 6 months on my own, and I’m 2/3 of the way through that and feeling pretty good!

Social Life 3/10 – I need to see my friends more. It’s my fault I don’t see them as often as I’d like, and it’s up to me to fix that. Another new year’s resolution maybe?

Attitude 9/10 – I always see the positives in any situation, even if there is no positive to see. I’m solutions focused too, so I never get bogged down in the problem but try to find the solution instead. I think my attitude is pretty darn good!

Career 8/10 – I love what I’m doing right now, I love the challenges, and I love how my boss just tells me his vision, then lets me go and work out how it will be achieved, then usually agrees with what I’ve come up with. I need to get better at mentoring my staff, and maybe that will be another challenge I can set in the new year? :)

How are you doing in all of these areas of your life? Where can you improve? What are you doing well?

Why have I chosen to promote Younique products?

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IMG 4067I have a career that I love and am finally doing something that not only challenges me, but it is rewarding too. I’m very lucky to have found such an awesome job, and I thank my lucky stars every day!

So why have I decided to promote Younique products in addition to my very busy career?

As you all know, I’m all about women building their confidence and self esteem, and Younique’s mission really resonated with me:

“Younique’s mission is to uplift, empower, validate, and ultimately build self-esteem in women around the world through high-quality products that encourage both inner and outer beauty and spiritual enlightenment while also providing opportunities for personal growth and financial reward.”

Now, I know as well as you do, that beauty is only skin deep, and we should not live our lives trying to look like something that we’re not. That’s a given.

So look at it this way….

When you buy a new outfit that you know looks great on you and flatters your figure, you feel better about yourself, right? Same goes with makeup. You don’t have to pack it on with a spatula – you can apply makeup subtly, but it will give you an internal boost that reflects outwardly too.

Also, as a Younique presenter, I now have an additional stream of income, which of course provides me with more financial security, which again helps to build my confidence in myself and confidence in my ability to succeed.

Another reason why I like Younique is because the products are well priced, and the cost to become a presenter is very small when compared with other companies, so as I loved their mascara (it does amazing things to your eyelashes!), I figured I would like to buy them at a 25%+ discount so I signed up. Now I have friends and family using the products, and of course I use them every day too!

The thing is, when you’re struggling with your confidence and self esteem, that’s a good time to find something that gives your life purpose. What are you working toward? What goals do you have? What makes you feel good about yourself?

Once you find something that gives you purpose and goals, you will find that your outlook on life will improve quite dramatically.

So…. what are you going to do next year to give your life some purpose? What goals do you want to set yourself for next year?

If you are interested in becoming a Younique presenter, click on the link below.

https://www.youniqueproducts.com/Mishy/business/presenterinfo