Archives for July 2012

Is your birth control making you depressed?

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I am writing this today after a significant meltdown I experienced the other day.  I had no idea what was wrong with me, but I felt as though I was losing my mind. 

For many months now, I’ve been experiencing uncontrollable mood swings, depression, anxiety, irrational thoughts, hair loss, severe bloating, tingly fingers, and the list goes on.

But not once did I link these symptoms (other than the bloating) to the birth control pill (BCP).

Around 5 weeks ago I went to the doctor to change the brand of pill I was taking (I was taking Yaz), because each month I was experiencing a withdrawal migraine when I took the sugar pills.

While I was in the doctor’s office, I mentioned that I occasionally experienced optical migraines (where I would see dots in front of my eyes, have trouble focusing but would experience very little pain).  She responded, saying that I was to NEVER EVER take the pill again, as I was at risk for having a stroke.

Ok, well I didn’t see that coming, but I took her advice and immediately stopped taking it.

Two days ago, around 5 weeks after my last pill, I experienced a major meltdown.

I felt down for several days leading up to it, and then it “exploded”. All of a sudden I had this huge bubble of anxiety inside my tummy and I was thinking awful thoughts, and even thought about ending my life!

I accused my partner of “cheating” on me, made up stories in my head about what he was doing, and I literally let him have it!  I was crying uncontrollably and felt a huge amount of emotional pain – it’s really hard to describe, except that it was really, really awful.

What was WRONG with me????

I knew I needed to get help, but instead I just stopped eating (I totally lost my appetite for two days), I couldn’t sleep and just spent all day in bed curled up and shaking… I knew this wasn’t right…

I went to work the next day, and while I was able to put on a brave face, the bubble of anxiety was there, but not as big and scary as it was the day before.  But I still didn’t feel “right”. 

Last night something clicked.  I’d stopped taking the BCP some time ago, but could it have caused my meltdown?? 

I wondered this because I had the Implanon rod implanted several years ago and after some time I began to feel depressed and I know it was caused by the rod, despite what my doctor said (she did not believe me).

Anyway, a week after having it removed, I was my old self again. Funny that…

But I’d stopped taking the BCP 5 weeks ago, so could it possibly be the cause of my meltdown?

So I decided to investigate.

I was amazed, shocked and angered by what I found.  I was most definitely NOT alone. 

Why didn’t my doctor warm me about this???  Why didn’t she explain the risks???  In the little brochure in the packet, it was quite vague, and not overly specific, and there was definitely NO mention of a serious meltdown!

I was thinking suicidal thoughts!  What if I’d acted on them??? What if other women HAVE acted on them!  And all because they’re taking this pill!!

As I write this, I still feel that I could “lose it” at any moment, the bubble of anxiety still exists and I remain on the verge of tears – anything could set me off, and I may have totally messed up my relationship with the most amazing man who has put up with this for so long too.  :-(

It’s not just us women who suffer – it’s those around us.  Even my daughter kept asking if I was ok.  I could only respond with “I’m just not feeling well.”   My poor baby – it must have been difficult for her to see me like this and not be able to do a thing about it…

How many women have to go through this before doctors realise that maybe the high rate of depression is caused by the BCP and similar drugs and not something else??  And why are so many women in the US winning law suits against the company that makes the BCP I was taking?  Now if that’s not a red flag, I don’t know what is!!!

There is good news with all of this however.  Although I’m not there yet, the effects of this pill will wear off and I will get the old me back.  I just hope my partner is able to see the old me in there somewhere and stay with me as I begin to reacquaint myself with the happy, confident me that I miss dearly…

If you’ve been taking Yasmin or Yaz, check this out – and PLEASE stop taking it if you’re experiencing these side effects – what I went through was pretty awful, but I now know I am not alone:

What would you do if you lost your job tomorrow?

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I was at a wealth creation seminar several years ago when the presenter on stage announced that most of us are only 3 paycheques away from bankruptcy. I thought “What? NO way!”.

But when I thought about it, I realised that if all of a sudden I stopped getting paid, I would eventually run out of money like he said. But of course I knew my job was safe…

And that’s what most people think – they’ve been working for the same employer for many years, and they feel safe. That is, until they’re told the company they’re working for has run out of money and is shutting its doors.

This is happening all too often right now. Companies are still feeling the pinch of the global financial crisis and while some have managed to last this long, they’re only hanging by a string. Soon enough, they may have to close their doors too, just like many others.

I live in Brisbane, Australia and in the past if you’ve been lucky enough to secure a government job (parden the “secure” pun), you’re set for life. But no more. They’re in the process of letting thousands upon thousands of people go, with several thousand already gone.

What do these people do? With thousands of people suddenly in the market for a new job, there’s now a lot more competition out there!

So what would you do if you lost your job tomorrow? What if there were no other jobs available?

What’s happening now is one of the reasons why I’m working on setting up an income in addition to my “real job”. This is because my job may not be there tomorrow, next week, or maybe even next year. I MUST have a backup plan in place!

So what is your backup plan? And what should a good backup plan look like?

Here are some ideas to get you thinking:

  • It must be “GFC-safe”. For example, your new business should not be affected by events such as the GFC, so you need to find something that will generate income, by providing something that consumers use, regardless of the state of their finances.
  • It must generate you a recurring income – your bank account is topped up every single month – and not necessarily due to your own hard work!
  • It must be low risk or risk free – If you’re facing losing your job, the last thing you want is to risk even more, right?
  • It must be inexpensive to get started – I’m sure if you’re reading this that you don’t necessarily have thousands of dollars to invest in setting up your own business – and the more you invest, the higher the risk, right?
  • It must be something that allows you to invest in your own business, just by changing the way you’ve been doing things for years.
  • It must be simple to do – something that has been proven successful before (again to reduce risk).

I’m already involved in such a business and I know many people who have achieved ultimate financial freedom by doing what I am doing now. So many people have been able to quit their jobs because of this business, and many with no experience or specific skills at all – you’re taught all of that.

Want to know more? Then please Contact Me and ask me about it (no matter where you live, this might be for you). :)