Archives for March 2012

How can I turn my mood around?

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Are you feeling down right now? Are you so caught up in negative thoughts that you really just don’t see anything to be happy about in your life right now?

Sometimes we get so caught up in what we’re not happy about in our lives that we forget just how much we have to be grateful for. And sometimes we feel like we’re getting some sort of “payoff” for feeling awful. For example, if you’re feeling miserable, it’s easy to connect with other miserable people.

You and your miserable friends can then hang out and be miserable together – but at least you have friends, right?

So getting yourself out of his negative mindset is hard. And you’ve got to WANT to do it!

So here’s how I turn my mood around when I’m feeling down:

  1. I try to remember what it feels like to be really happy. I try to internally feel those feelings.
  2. I think about other people’s situations and how they are so much worse than mine (eg. people in third world countries, people who have lost their entire families in tragedies etc).
  3. I dig out my gratitude journal and I write down at least five things I am grateful for right now. I even have a grateful journal app on my iPhone, so I really have no excuses not to do this!
  4. I try to feel that feeling of gratitude and happiness as I write each statement. I read them back to myself to remind myself of how lucky I am.
  5. In my gratitude journal I also write what I am grateful for in the future – as if I’m already there. For example, I say how happy and grateful I am for the opportunity to help thousands of women all over the world to totally transform their lives.

You may not feel like digging out that gratitude journal right now, but force yourself. Remember how good it feels to be happy and talk yourself into wanting to feel that way again!

Can’t afford a weight loss program? Here’s your perfect solution!

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I am probably one of those people that many others hate who has never really struggled with my weight.

In fact, even while pregnant, my weight never went above the ideal weight for somebody of my height who wasn’t even pregnant!

I have maintained my figure for many reasons, including the fact that while I don’t always eat the best foods for me, my portion sizes are on the smaller size. I never upsize – EVER.

Also, I’m quite active (even when not following specific workout routines), so my level of activity combined with my eating habits allows me to maintain my weight.

But I do get a bit “soft” and floppy sometimes, and that’s when I decide it’s time to partake in a workout program to tone the little bit of excess flab I have.

I have tried many programs and when I apply myself, they all work great. But I do get bored after a while – I need variety from the same old thing every week.

So when a friend of mine posted something on Facebook about a program she was following, I was curious! So I took a look and liked what I saw.

Now, beware that some of the pictures on this site and even some of the video titles are a little “sexual”, but the program itself is tough and from what I’ve read, it works too. And best of all, it’s FREE!

So pop on over to and take a look for yourself.

You will notice that during her workouts she uses an Interval timer. You can get one of those HERE.

What do you think? Are you up to the challenge?? If cost was your excuse before, then you no longer have an excuse! 😉

Calling all WISE Women!

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A friend of mine directed me to the site below and I feel compelled to tell you all about it, because I believe that if we can improve any aspect of our life through self education, then it’s a worthwhile investment of our time. Read on for more information about this free offer…

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What to do to save a failing marriage

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Before I get started on today’s article, I first want to mention that not all marriages can be saved.  And not all marriages should be saved either!

If you’re being physically abused or there is serious emotional trauma going on, then this is not something I can help you with – you MUST get help from somebody who is trained to work with people in your situation. If you have children, then please get help for their sakes, if not for yours.

Ok, so if your marriage isn’t as bad as that, but you’re feeling miserable and unhappy and you just can’t communicate with your husband because every time you do, you end up fighting, then today you will be equipped with a new set of ideas which I know will help.

I’ve learned the hard way that many men are REALLY difficult to communicate with! And they’re even worse if the communication is in relation to something bad! So how can you get your husband to come to you and open up? How can you draw him closer?

Here’s a scenario of a woman I know who is having trouble in her marriage:

Lisa is a married mother of two children. She and her husband are very successful (See? It can happen to anyone!) and both work full time. Her husband speaks to her rudely, puts her down, and sometimes he verbally abuses her (sounds exactly like my first marriage!).

She is miserable. She thought that a happy marriage was all about loving each other, spending happy times together, and proudly watching their kids grow up. This is not what she’s experiencing right now!

Lisa is afraid to leave her husband because of the effect it will have on her children, plus she loves her husband and constantly thinks back to the times when things were wonderful between them. Even now, she sees glimpses of those times, although they’re brief. So she hangs onto these times, but he unfortunately reverts back to his insulting and upsetting ways before long.

Does this scenario sound familar? It does to me!

So what should Lisa do?

The very first thing Lisa should do is to understand that staying in an unhappy marriage (and not doing anything about it) for the sake of her children will actually cause more harm than good. Kids can sense when something’s wrong, even if they don’t witness it personally. They know when you’re not happy. It is not healthy for a child to be in this type of environment.

Now, I’m not suggesting Lisa should eave her husband (unless this is what she wants). In fact, if she chooses to stay, there are some things she can try which may actually turn her marriage around. These steps aren’t guaranteed, but they may at least turn her marriage onto the right track. So here goes:

  1. Get help from a trained counselor – chances are Lisa’s self esteem is down in a pit somewhere, out of sight. It’s important that she begins to work on healing herself. Years of being treated this way are bound to have a negative effect, no matter how strong you are! It’s perfectly ok for her to tell her husband where she is going (if he asks) and she can invite him too – but if he doesn’t want to go, she should not push him.
  2. Book in for a total pampering – It’s time Lisa did something for HER. She could get her nails done, choose a new hairstyle, get waxed, tweezered and massaged, buy a new outfit. Just spend a few hours doing stuff to make her feel good. I don’t know about you, but if I know I look good, I feel good too!
  3. Lisa will need to ensure that she has some time every week which is just for her, where she can visit friends, enjoy a hobby, or just relax with a good book. If she’s short on friends or ideas, then I suggest that she join a Meetup group or something similar, so she can catch up with like-minded people. If her husband won’t babysit, then she should find somebody else who can have the kids for a few hours. If she has friends with kids, then maybe they can help each other out?  It’s time to get creative here – nothing is impossible, right?
  4. Lisa has two children, so it’s important that she keeps a good part of her focus on them as well. So on weekends (or if she didn’t work, during the day/after school), she could schedule fun outings for her and the kids. She should invite her husband to join them if he wishes, but again let it go if he refuses.
  5. This one’s important… Lisa will have to stop talking to her husband about their marriage. It seems silly to not talk to him about their marriage when it is failing, but bringing it up is actually causing more harm than good. So for now, stop talking about it.

And finally, I suggest that Lisa purchases Have the Relationship You Want by Rori Raye.

This ebook has completely transformed my life and my relationship with my man – and it’s helped me to see exactly what was wrong in my past relationships too. It took me some time to totally get what I was doing “wrong” and I still slip up now, but if it weren’t for this ebook, I’m not sure where I’d be now.

It will take you through the ways in which you communicate with your man, and how to turn things around so he’s not automatically jumping to defend himself or attack you.

So the steps above (and the ebook too) are all about putting your focus on to you and doing what makes you happy.

Don’t you hate it when people say “You don’t need a man to be happy”?? I do too! But there is some truth in this. You must be happy in yourself and live a happy and fulfilling life, if you ever want to inspire a man to reach out to you.

And this is what may happen with Lisa and her husband. He will begin to sense that Lisa’s focus is no longer on him, and he may begin to feel curious about what’s going on. He will also notice that now that she’s looking after herself and meeting her own needs, she seems happier and more confident.

This will very likely make Lisa’s husband uneasy. He will sense that he’s losing her, that there’s something else going on. And he will very likely grumble and carry on about it. But after reading Rori’s book, she will know exactly how to respond to his grumbles, in a positive and non-threatening way.

He may then begin to realise that if he doesn’t step up soon, he’s going to lose her – and most guys don’t want their marriage to end, but they’ve not been inspired enough to “fix” things. So now he has the chance to do just that!

So… what do you all think? If you’ve tried to do some (or all) of these steps, have they worked for you?

What are you going to do today to get you closer to achieving your desires?

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It’s all well and good to have goals and desires, but what are you actually doing each day in order to achieve them?

You can look at your list every day, several times a day, but will this activity actually move you closer? I’m thinking not!

What you must do is take action!

Sometimes though, looking at the big picture of what you want can seem overwhelming. So can thinking about the things you need to do to get there too!

So here’s a little process you can follow each day to start you moving towards achieving your desires:

  1. First thing in the morning – check your diary. Is that’s in your diary for today going to get you closer to achieving your desires? If so, great! If not, change what you see in your diary!
  2. Every night, plan the next day. What will you do tomorrow for one of your 6 major areas of life? Only choose one to focus on tomorrow. This can’t be too hard right?

Here are the 6 major areas of life, if in case you didn’t know:

  1. Spiritual
  2. Health
  3. Business
  4. Personal Development
  5. Family
  6. Social

It takes between 14 and 21 days to form a habit, so why not commit to following this process for a month, to see what a difference it makes to your progress and your eventual results.

I’m pretty sure you will be surprised! 😉