Archives for April 2009

Self Responsibility

Butterfly 70x70

Taking responsibility for your current situation can be difficult to do if you feel that everything that is wrong with your life is somebody else’s fault.

Someone with a weight problem might say that they’re overweight because there are too many fast food outlets around that tempt them, or someone in a bad relationship might say that they pick bad relationships because they were abused as a child and they just end up in the same situation over and over again.

It is kind of confronting when someone says that your current situation is 100% your fault, and it took me a long time to really believe this to be true.

No, you don’t choose to have fast food outlets everywhere and you don’t choose to be treated badly, but what you do choose to do is react in the way you do.

For example, there are plenty of thin people who live near the same fast food outlets. The difference between you and them is that they choose not go eat there as often as you do. You can choose to limit your fast food consumption to one day a week.

There are millions of other people who have been abused as children, but they don’t all find themselves in bad relationships.

On the other hand, I was never abused as a child but I found myself in a bad relationship – so what caused my situation? It certainly wasn’t abuse as a child!

If you find yourself in a bad relationship, you can choose to leave that relationship, you can choose to stay or you can choose to work on fixing it (if possible). You can also choose to avoid people who are likely to treat you badly, or you can choose to love yourself so that you can find someone who can love you even more!

Here is another example: I work with people who are constantly whining about where we work, how bad their job is, how terrible management are – but they still continue to work there and they’re not looking for employment elsewhere!

They have three choices. They can continue to put up with a job they hate, they can learn to see the positives of working there and be grateful they even have a job, or they can find a job elsewhere!

Until one starts taking responsibility for their situation they will have a lot of trouble making the changes required to improve their life.

How to overcome low confidence

Butterfly 70x70

I am yet to meet anyone who didn’t lack confidence at one time in their life.

We sometimes face challenges that are outside our comfort zones and it is completely normal to feel somewhat nervous, worried about how you will go, or even just a feeling of being out of your depth.

I found myself in exactly that situation last Tuesday when I was asked to MC an event in front of around 250 people.

What’s funny about this is that I secretly wanted to do this, but I found myself trying to get someone else to do it but I failed, and before long I was standing up on stage talking to a large group of people.

So how did I go?

I think we’re all more critical of ourselves than others are of us and I thought I talked too fast and didn’t say enough (very unlike me!).  But my colleagues all commented on how well I did, and I actually enjoyed it!

This is in stark contrast to a seminar I presented in front of around 40 people a few years back.  I was shaking so much that it was coming through in my voice.  It was a good ten minutes before I felt I could let go of the podium for fear I would fall over!

When you first start learning how to ride a bike, you’re a little unsure and a bit wobbly, but over time with practice it becomes second nature.  The same goes for anything.  Do it enough times and the fear and nervousness you felt at first will disappear.

Is there something you really, really want to do?  Why haven’t you done it yet?  Could it be because you’re still feeling that sense of fear?

Look at my example above and see how you can relate it to your situation…

What are you most grateful for in your life right now?

Butterfly 70x70

Today is ANZAC day, which is a day where we honour the memory of those who lost their lives defending our country.

My great uncle died in 1941 at the age of 19. He was lost when the HMAS Sydney was sunk by the Germans off the Australian coast.

Today is a time where we should consider how precious life is and why we should enjoy each and every moment. You never know when your life will be taken away, like my great uncle’s was.

He never had the chance to experience the joys I have experienced through my life.

He will never know how wonderful it is to be a parent and meet his children face to face the first time – an experience that cannot be matched by any other.

Life is extremely precious and should be valued. We should feel gratitude for all that we have and expect more, if that is what we want.

What are you most grateful for in your life right now?

Change your point of view and you will change your life

Butterfly 70x70

My father emailed this story to me and I figured what better way to tell the world than through my blog because it truly is an inspiring story!

This is ‘Faith’.

This dog was born on Christmas Eve in the year 2002… He was born with 3 legs –
2 healthy hind legs and 1 abnormal front leg which need to be amputated.
He of course could not walk when he was born.
Even his mother did not want him.

His first owner also did not think that he would survive. Therefore, he was thinking of
‘putting him to sleep’.
By this time, his present owner, Jude Stringfellow, met him and wanted to take care
of him. She was determined to teach and train this dog to walk by himself.
Therefore she named him ‘Faith’.

In the beginning, she put Faith on a surfing board to let him feel the movements.
Later she used peanut butter on a spoon as a lure and reward for him to stand up
and jump around. Even the other dog at home also helped to encourage him to walk.
Amazingly, only after 6 months, like a miracle, Faith learned to balance on his 2 hind
legs and jumped to move forward. After further training in the snow, he now can walk
like a human being.

Faith loves to walk around now. No matter where he goes, he just attracts all the
people around him.
He is now becoming famous on the international scene. He has appeared
on various newspapers and TV shows.

There is even one book entitled ‘With a little faith’ being published about him.
He was even considered to appear in one of Harry Potter movies.

His present owner Jude Stringfellew has given up her teaching post and plans
to take him around the world to teach that even without a perfect body, one can
have a perfect soul’.

In life there are always undesirable things. Perhaps one will feel better if one
changes the point of view from another direction.

I hope this message will bring fresh & new ways of thinking to everyone and that everyone
can appreciate and be thankful for each beautiful day that follows.
Faith is the continual demonstration of the Strength of Life.

A small request: All you are asked to do is keep this circulating so pass this story onto your friends.

Take responsibility for your thoughts

Butterfly 70x70

I currently work in a large organisation and sitting nearby are two people who I find to be extremely negative.

Other staff members have commented about their negativity to me, and have asked how I handle sitting near them!

Lucky for me, I am easily able to block out their negative comments. I see no point in taking it on board and for the most part I just ignore them. In fact, I kind of feel sorry for them because they don’t realise just how much they are jeapordising their chances of opportunities.

Just today one of them was unsuccessful in a role she applied for and the other was recently unsuccessful in applying for another role.

Now, maybe they were unsuccessful because there is something bigger and better out there for them, or it could be that their negativity is coming across in their interviews.

Being an avid believer in the Law of Attraction, I am thinking that they have attracted their bad results through their internal thinking. They however, are blaming management for the fact they were unsuccessful.

I used to be just like them. Everything that ever went against me was somebody else’s fault. It was never mine.

Now, I have learned that what I think about and how I react to situations is totally in my control and I therefore control them quite well.

Like everyone else, I do have the occasional negative thought and how I deal with these is this: I replace that negative thought with a positive thought. It’s not that hard when you think about it.

Also, I am not perfect and I am guilty of judging people on occasion. Not all the time, but sometimes. When I realise I am doing this though, I stop and try to look at the situation from a different angle. It works wonders, and as time goes on, I find I am less critical than I used to be, so I am getting there!

Well, that’s enough waffling for tonight – it’s nearly my bed time! Night everyone!

What to do when feeling uncertain

Butterfly 70x70

I was asked a while back if I would mind conducting a tutorial on a subject I have not really taken an interest in for a long time now.  They had nobody else to do it, so I agreed.

The tutorial relates to a subject that has changed a lot in the last couple of years, so I have had to do a “crash course” so I understand it before I teach it!

Because of this, I am a little uncertain as to whether my knowledge will be sufficient to answer the questions asked of me, however this is how I look at the situation:

If they ask me a question and I don’t know the answer, I will note the question down and get back to them with an answer once I have found it myself.

My other option is to make something up, but you can imagine how silly that would make me look!

We all can’t know everything about everything – everybody knows that!  So if you’re in a similar situation, do what you can to get your head around the subject and if you have some questions you can’t answer, it’s not the end of the world – you can get back to them with an answer later.

I am heading off now, to do some study!  :-)

Inspirational women

Butterfly 70x70

As I’ve talked about before, I really believe the Fit Yummy Mummy fat loss program is the best program around.

The latest 12 Week Transformation Challenge has recently finished, with some amazing results!

If you have ever struggled to lose weight and you’re in need of some weight loss now, then visit http://www.fityummymummy.com/contest/09/challenge and see the top finalists in this challenge and what they have achieved.

They all made the decision to lose weight, committed to doing so, and WOW! Look at them now!!!

My hubby is going to become a personal trainer!

Butterfly 70x70

My husband told me today that he wanted to be a personal trainer.

He has always been sporty (unlike myself!) and loves working out, going to the gym and keeping fit, so it was no surprise to me when he mentioned his goal. I wondered what had taken him so long!?

Becoming a qualified personal trainer is expensive and requires a lot of hard work, so today we set about finding a way to help him achieve this goal, and of course we did!

We found the best course for him and he will confirm tomorrow if he can do distance study and he is on his way!

Often when we have a goal that requires a large financial cost, we find we tell ourselves we “can’t afford it” or “it’s too much”. But if the goal is something you really want, then changing these words to something more like “how can I afford this?” or “what can I do to make this happen?” will definitely put a different spin on things.

You will also realise very quickly that just by changing how you look at situations like this, you automatically create alternatives for yourself. It’s amazing!

I want to lose weight but I can’t afford to join a gym

Butterfly 70x70

With the economic crisis upon us, it is little wonder that people cannot afford to join a gym or pay a personal trainer to help them lose weight.

Losing weight is never easy. It takes time and of course it requires a strong commitment if you have any hope of achieving your goal, and now for many it seems so much harder.

There is however, an alternative. No, you won’t be paying monthly gym memberships and you won’t be paying out hundreds and hundreds of dollars to a personal trainer.

All you need is a simple to follow ebook that takes you through the various exercises you need to do, the food you should eat and of course you MUST get results and fast!

Carrying a little extra fat myself, I plan on getting back into my fat loss routine in the next couple of weeks when my extremely busy schedule finally eases up somewhat.

While I don’t need to lose “weight” as such, I do need to lose fat and I know I will feel better (both physically and mentally) when I do!

For information on the program I follow, click HERE.

How do you perceive situations?

20090417010.jpg

20090417 010In the picture here you can see a Rainbow Lorikeet.

I LOVE them! I think they’re beautiful and colourful and I love to sit and watch them as they feed from the flowers outside my bedroom window.

I know many people who hate these birds because they are noisy – but so what?! They only come around first thing in the morning (the best time of the day!) and just before it gets dark and then they’re gone.

I suppose again I’m talking about perception. I perceive these gorgeous birds to be a positive thing and whenever they’re around I feel grateful that I have native trees around my house to attract them.

Someone who perceives them as negative is likely to wake up grumpy and annoyed because these birds have woken them up.

Who is going to have the better day??