Archives for October 2008

Confidence and Public Speaking

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Do you break out in a sweat at just the thought of getting up on stage and delivering a speech? Whilst on stage, do you shake uncontrollably, and do you wonder if your audience can hear your voice shaking too?

If you do, then you’re just like me!

The good news is that there is a way to boost your confidence when it comes to public speaking and it’s pretty simple.

You must practise!

I remember when I started my first “real” job in a bank. I was a bank teller and a customer had come in asking for something unusual. I referred this to my boss who told me I needed to call a particular person at head office.

What??? I had to call someone??? I was sooo nervous making that call! Looking back I wonder what on earth I had to be nervous about. I suppose experienced public speakers feel the same way!

I’ll bet they were nervous when they started out too. But after doing the same thing many times over, I suppose it becomes like second nature. I have friends who get a buzz over it!

Here are some pointers to help you out:

1. Practise your speech in front of a friend or family member and get their feedback.

2. Know that you think you’re doing worse than you are (we are all too hard on ourselves!).

3. Smile! This is a great way to engage the audience.

4. Get to the point – don’t drag your speech out.

5. Engage your audience – make sure the content is relevant and interesting!

All the best for an interesting and engaging speech!

How one little action can change your life

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I’ve had the best weekend ever and I had to share it with you, because it explains how the power of one little confident action can completely change the direction of your life.

I will start in 2006 when I attended an internet marketing seminar.  While looking around the audience I noticed someone who looked familiar.

That person was Nik Halik.  I was planning to do one of his stock market courses and recognised him from his website.

I was at this seminar with my brother and told him who I had recognised.  My brother told me to go and introduce myself but I said "Nah, he will think I’m an idiot!".  So during the following break I walked up to Nik and said "Hi!  I’m Michelle and I’m going to be doing your course soon!".

To my surprise he was really lovely, and introduced my brother and I to his sister Victoria and their friends.  During the breaks we chatted and got to know each other a little better and discussed an upcoming event that Nik was presenting at.  I was thrilled that they were so friendly and down to earth – I was definitely going to do Nik’s course now!

Later that month Nik presented at another event which I attended with my parents.  It was at this event Victoria asked me if I would be interested in working with them at some upcoming events they were going to be holding in the next few months.  Of course I jumped at the chance – hanging out with the Haliks was fun!

I worked at two of their wealth creation events that year and had the best time ever!  All of the presenters were successful in their chosen field and presented on their strategy for success.  Hanging out with successful people really boosted my energy – and they were so inspirational too.

Working at these events (as a volunteer) became a regular event for me – I had a fantastic time, especially hanging out with the various presenters who I got to know quite well.  I was even offered the opportunity to be coached by one of the presenters in return for helping him out with his local clients!

That’s exciting, but even more exciting was the most recent event, Cashflow Brisbane.  I was offered the opportunity to work with one of the presenters on a paid basis, helping them with their websites, assisting at their various events and speaking at their workshops!   I am sooo excited! 

This is an amazing opportunity and I am really excited about the fact that I will be working with people who inspire me.  This can only help me to grow even more.

And it all started with an introduction that I was confident enough to go through with….!

Identify your passion by writing yourself a letter

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Through my life coaching studies I was introduced to the "Letter from the Future".  I had already come across this concept before, and this was just another way of presenting this to a potential coaching client to help them identify what they’re passionate about – what makes their heart sing.

This exercise really helps you to create a clear picture in your mind about how you want your life to be, and is therefore a very powerful step towards achieving the kind of life you want.  Without the clear picture of where you want to be, then how can you know you’re heading in the right direction? 

Having clear goals is a great way to help you build confidence and self esteem.  Working towards a goal gives you purpose, and as you get closer to your goal, you will find that your confidence and self esteem improves.

To write a letter from the future, here’s what you do:

1.  Choose a date several months or years into the future.  It should be a date that means something to you, such as an anniversary or birthday.

2.  Imagine your life has progressed very well – so well in fact that things are just as you wanted them to be.

3.  Write a letter to someone (it doesn’t matter who), telling them of the developments in your life, in great detail, from the moment you wake up each day in your ideal life, to when you go to bed.

4.  As you write, visualise how it would feel if this really was your life and you were happy, successful and fulfilled.  Do whatever you can to muster up those feelings. 

Keep your letter from the future in a safe place, and refer to it regularly – at least once a month.  Combine this with a well-defined goal achievement plan, and you will be well on your way to improving your confidence and achieving your goals!